I'm naturally charismatic (despite being a closeted introvert who just wants to read books in his room without seeing anyone for a week in reality) so I usually wind up being the person that gets approached by coworkers/acquaintances about hanging out. Jokes on them though because I'll say "sure!! I'd love to, just hit me up!" and then they'll text me that weekend while I'm sitting at my PC smoking a bowl in the same clothes I was wearing on Thursday, which results in me going "I'm just gonna reply in an hour and say I was busy...."
It is a painful cycle of being too lazy to engage with relative strangers which leads to me being lonely and wanting friends who'll hang out with me all the time. I did this to the only confirmed leftist coworker I have right now and despite my attempts since then to suggest we hang out, he has not taken me up on the offer --- HOISTED BY M Y OWN PETARD
Better yet why can't these people just be happy with coming over and hitting the bong why do we have to go to a bar where the bartender will sigh and tell me to fuck off when I ask for a white russian or a mudslide. :finkelstein-anger: It's inconsiderate to me!!!
I can relate to this for sure. The only thing that works for me is to make concrete plans for the day and time right there in the moment. If I say, "sure, lmk sometime," it never happens because I'm home and I don't feel like going out.
The only thing that works for me is to make concrete plans for the day and time right there in the moment.
Yep. You can usually count on me to show up if you text me on Wednesday asking if I want to hang out Friday night at 8pm, but if there's even the slightest vagueness to the plan then its more likely I'll forget about it by Friday and thus won't want to hang out when asked
I think it's a pretty common problem--or at least, it seems that way to me because people are pretty understanding. If I say, "I'd love to hang out, can we make plans right now? I've found that if I don't, then I just say 'yeah, someday' and it never happens," people usually make plans with me right away. Sometimes I have to kind of force myself to take that first step though, because my introversion loves to talk me out of social engagements, but I know that once I make myself go, I'll have fun.
I'm naturally charismatic (despite being a closeted introvert who just wants to read books in his room without seeing anyone for a week in reality) so I usually wind up being the person that gets approached by coworkers/acquaintances about hanging out. Jokes on them though because I'll say "sure!! I'd love to, just hit me up!" and then they'll text me that weekend while I'm sitting at my PC smoking a bowl in the same clothes I was wearing on Thursday, which results in me going "I'm just gonna reply in an hour and say I was busy...."
It is a painful cycle of being too lazy to engage with relative strangers which leads to me being lonely and wanting friends who'll hang out with me all the time. I did this to the only confirmed leftist coworker I have right now and despite my attempts since then to suggest we hang out, he has not taken me up on the offer --- HOISTED BY M Y OWN PETARD
seriously can't these people ask make plans before 5pm when I'm stoned af
Better yet why can't these people just be happy with coming over and hitting the bong why do we have to go to a bar where the bartender will sigh and tell me to fuck off when I ask for a white russian or a mudslide. :finkelstein-anger: It's inconsiderate to me!!!
people out here really need to respect the bong more
I can relate to this for sure. The only thing that works for me is to make concrete plans for the day and time right there in the moment. If I say, "sure, lmk sometime," it never happens because I'm home and I don't feel like going out.
Yep. You can usually count on me to show up if you text me on Wednesday asking if I want to hang out Friday night at 8pm, but if there's even the slightest vagueness to the plan then its more likely I'll forget about it by Friday and thus won't want to hang out when asked
I think it's a pretty common problem--or at least, it seems that way to me because people are pretty understanding. If I say, "I'd love to hang out, can we make plans right now? I've found that if I don't, then I just say 'yeah, someday' and it never happens," people usually make plans with me right away. Sometimes I have to kind of force myself to take that first step though, because my introversion loves to talk me out of social engagements, but I know that once I make myself go, I'll have fun.