It's not looking good for her. I'm completely out of my depth and unprepared to handle this. I feel completely lost. What do I do? I know this isn’t the best place for this but I’m at a loss. I’m just staring at my screen.
Very sorry man. In the UK I presume? if so call the Macmillan cancer support hotline, I've heard they are good at talking you through good options of what you should do on all kinds of subjects. Give them a try. 0333 300 7463
This sucks massively. Think you did the right thing in talking about it though. Better to post than to remain silent or in denial. I hope your mom beats it and gets better.
I'm trying to do a 5 stage of grief speedrun. Being in denial or angry doesn't help anyone, all I can do is my best to help her feel comfortable and get the help she needs.
I wish you luck and I say continue talking about it so it doesn't corrode your mind. You are handling it maturely and I applaud you for it. When you get to anger don't be afraid to vent here. You will always find a hexbear to listen to you here.
Thank you friend. Luckily I've got family and an amazing girlfriend and a cat who'll look out for me, but it's good to have a place I can get stuff off my chest too. :meow-hug:
I'm really sorry :(
Went through that a couple years ago with my mother and grandmother simultaneously. However it was breast cancer and most people don't die of breast cancer any more (although my godmother did a few months ago). Really hope it goes well.
I'm sorry for your loss. My mum had breast cancer too 15 years ago and managed to beat it but this is new, on her spine. Here's hoping she beats this one too but I'm preparing myself for the worst.
Yikes, I'm always concerned some day we're gonna find out my mom's got another cancer somewhere else... She's also concerned which is why she never eats sugar any more etc. I have no idea about cancer in the spine, hope it goes alright, and it probably will if it is early.
I had cancer before the important thing is to keep a positive attitude about it. The doctors know what they're doing all you have to do is what they say
I keep trying to reassure her of this. They're highly skilled and doing all they can, she just needs to focus on what makes her happy. Glad you beat it.
:Care-Comrade: love ya comrade, be gentle with yourself, let us know if there’s any way we can help, anonymous, neurotic, collective organism that we are.
Fuck, I don't even know what to say except that I'm sorry you and your mom have to go through this. Condolences comrade.
Crying for you brother. My best friend lost his dad to COVID back in April and my mom had cancer when I was in middle school and even though she’s been in remission for over 15 years now I sometimes cry thinking about it for a variety of reasons. Lot of good advice here so the only thing I will add is please don’t beat yourself up thinking about what you could have said or done better, thank you for sharing your struggle with us and don’t feel bad about opening up. Also know many people are rooting for her and you even strangers on the internet. Praying for you and sending many blessings. Love
-Soulja
My mother died of this when I was younger. Try to stay hopeful for you and her’s sake both. But spend as much time with her as you can. Tell her anything you’ve been meaning to but haven’t. Also I think let her have a space to vent to you if she needs it. It’s hard dealing with someone you love being sick, but even harder for them to be sick. They likely don’t want to burden their relatives by talking about it but I’m sure she’d appreciate if you gave her the space to.
I am so sorry. Seeing someone you love in pain and the fear of losing them are some of the worst things we have to face in life. Just know we did evolve to deal with losing our loved ones. It's not easy but it does get easier with time. In the mean time feel what you need to feel.
