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  • BrezhnevsEyebrows [he/him]
    hexbear
    64
    7 months ago

    This shit makes me so mad, even more so because I know that if I ever raised a son I couldnt stop other people from conditioning him this way

    • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
      hexbear
      55
      7 months ago

      most of the bad ideas a young boy raised in a non toxic household is going to be exposed to are probably going to come from other boys their age. Shortly followed by the internet and then tv

      providing a space where they can be vulnerable at home is from my childhood experience at least pretty helpful

      • BrezhnevsEyebrows [he/him]
        hexbear
        48
        7 months ago

        Very true. I remember when i was a small boy i used to let my mom paint my nails because I thought it was cool. Then at the park one of the other boys sneered "only girls paint their nails" and I never wore nail polish again. But I doubt that behavior like this is innate in children

        • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
          hexbear
          36
          7 months ago

          When I went to pick up a family friend's son from daycare a couple months ago, some of the boys had nail polish. They weren't being teased over it either. The kids are all right.

        • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
          hexbear
          33
          edit-2
          7 months ago

          no they learned it from elsewhere in society. What I am saying is that you can't just remove a boy (or girl) from society and the negative ideas it will teach them. At least not completely

          • BrezhnevsEyebrows [he/him]
            hexbear
            33
            7 months ago

            I know. Which makes me sad, because I want to protect kids from the harm the patriarchy inflicts on them. Shits just fucked, and like you said a good home environment where they can express themselves is really the best I can do on an individual level

            • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
              hexbear
              25
              edit-2
              7 months ago

              the personal is political. Helping protect just one child from this is helping the grander society shift as well. Like water droplets that cut through stone helping enough individual people have better ideas can help shift the culture overall

        • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
          hexbear
          15
          7 months ago

          In elementary school I remember a Friday when a girl was going around saying "does any BOY want his nails painted?"

          The most gruff boy in the grade accepted, and got one hand pink and one hand purple. Walked around the rest of the afternoon with a very proud smile on his face. In retrospect it was glorious.

        • magi [she/her, they/them]
          hexbear
          4
          7 months ago

          You should try it again, see if you like it now that you're grown, nobody to tell you off this time

      • Adkml [he/him]
        hexbear
        27
        7 months ago

        As you mentioned the internet, specifically YouTube is really precarious for falling down any number of incredibly brainstormed rabbit holes.

        I feel crazy wondering if the kids dressing up as Disney characters while their parents film are about to launch into a Prager u lecture.

        • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
          hexbear
          27
          edit-2
          7 months ago

          Andrew Tate especially should not have access to kids and it is deeply irresponsible and fucked up to allow a human traficker and groomer access to impressionable children

          and what he's doing is very much grooming