Gods, you don't even know the half of it. This past Christmas was the first one I was fully out at with her family (simply because I'm unapologetically me and I can't hide my breasts anymore). We spent 3.5 hours there. Not a single time was I spoken to in any way, referred to in any way, or even looked at in any appreciable manner. They treated me like I didn't even fucking exist. Neither myself nor my wife were expecting that outcome at all. She postulated that they weren't expecting someone who looked and sounded like me (I pass 99% of the time). I postulated that, well, I always suspected they hated me. Now they have "reason" to do so and just acted out their fantasy of ensuring I'm not part of the family. I don't know. Regardless of the reasoning, I think I would've rather been spoken to, misgendered, and deadnamed instead of completely and utterly erased. Fuck these people. They will never see me again.
Yeah fuck those people I wouldn't give them the time of day. I'm sure this is challenging for your partner, otherwise she probably would have written them off as well already.
Gods, you don't even know the half of it. This past Christmas was the first one I was fully out at with her family (simply because I'm unapologetically me and I can't hide my breasts anymore). We spent 3.5 hours there. Not a single time was I spoken to in any way, referred to in any way, or even looked at in any appreciable manner. They treated me like I didn't even fucking exist. Neither myself nor my wife were expecting that outcome at all. She postulated that they weren't expecting someone who looked and sounded like me (I pass 99% of the time). I postulated that, well, I always suspected they hated me. Now they have "reason" to do so and just acted out their fantasy of ensuring I'm not part of the family. I don't know. Regardless of the reasoning, I think I would've rather been spoken to, misgendered, and deadnamed instead of completely and utterly erased. Fuck these people. They will never see me again.
Yeah fuck those people I wouldn't give them the time of day. I'm sure this is challenging for your partner, otherwise she probably would have written them off as well already.
Sorry her family is terrible.