I wish we lived in the kind of society many North Americans had - you know, before the settlers wiped them out. kids weren't gendered and their names were neutral and temporary until they announced their adult names and genders at a coming out ceremony. literally broke down sobbing in public when I read about it in an anthropology book because of how much kinder and humane such a system is. obviously that's not something you can implement on your own but you can deemphasize a kid's assigned sex at birth and give leave them space to tell you who they are when they know it for themselves.
You can still see that in some indigenous communities today. The one near me does that. It varies with others. Some are much more rigid with gender roles while others aren't.
I wish we lived in the kind of society many North Americans had - you know, before the settlers wiped them out. kids weren't gendered and their names were neutral and temporary until they announced their adult names and genders at a coming out ceremony. literally broke down sobbing in public when I read about it in an anthropology book because of how much kinder and humane such a system is. obviously that's not something you can implement on your own but you can deemphasize a kid's assigned sex at birth and give leave them space to tell you who they are when they know it for themselves.
You can still see that in some indigenous communities today. The one near me does that. It varies with others. Some are much more rigid with gender roles while others aren't.