if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

  • EllenKelly [comrade/them]M
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    8 months ago

    morelike, dude (derogatory), I feel the same way about mate, I've accidentally blurted out it implies reproduction more than once.

    dude likely comes from Yankee Doodle, and later meant something like city slicker, think fancy man, or f#g (politely) 🙄, dont call me dude, bro

    If you've seen Easy Rider (1969), you know what happens to Yankee Dudes (they get murdered)

    Anyway, I heard women and dudes used the other day and I can't stop laughing about it

    • Egon
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      3 months ago

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    • DanComrd [comrade/them]
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      8 months ago

      I draw the line at "mate". I get everything else can be and is gendered and thats fine but "mate" is going to be the hill I die on.

      As Egon@hexbear.net pointed out, it's more referred to companionship with a friend than reproduction and as others have pointed to and I agree with, if you dont want to be called x then I won't.