i think i started with a lot of writing before i had my thoughts together enough to broach the topic. it's a lot of mental work to basically redefine yourself and work toward cultivating an identity that feels both new and like it was always there. hexbear is definitely a great place to talk things out if you're hesitant to bring it up in real life though, we have a great queer community. everyone is very accepting and generous with online resources to help you along the way