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Welcome to the weekly "I get irrationally excited about trains for about 15 seconds megathread!"
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My son came out to his grandpa this week. He absolutely didn't give a shit. He was more upset about realizing his gift of a pretty princess castle play set a decade ago wasn't as well-received as he thought.
It rocked.
after nearly 3 years, i'm free of electrolysis. still have some vellus hairs, but i decided i need a long term break and shaving them maybe every two weeks isn't a big deal
it shouldn't have taken 3 years to do just face ofc, but unfortunately it got delayed by some silly shit so it took three. but fuck it we ball, it's doneeee
congrats! im an electrologist and this makes me really happy. lmk if anything in particular sucked besides the obvious pain aspect so I can try to do better for all of us
What I thought it'd be like to be trans:
My experience of being trans:
It's mostly paperwork.I'm almost 6 years post-HRT, and a few years ago I stopped wearing make-up on a daily basis because I'm very lazy. Men seem to be flirting with me regardless, and yet dysphoria has a habit of telling me that I don't pass well enough. Dysphoria really is a fuck.
barring any last minute catastrophes your girl will FINALLY be leaving florida behind! it has taken me so many years but that doesn't matter now because it's finally fucking happeniiiiiing
late but glad you made it out too!
my fervent dream is that one day soon all trans people will escape florida to somewhere (at least nominally) safe
This week been not so good at my main gig gonna have a vent;
CW: transphobia, sexism, racism, ableism, misgendering etc at work
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My voice doesn't pass on its own but in context with me it typically does since I've got a full beard and try to act all masc and such. So there I was at work at my main gig as a cashier with some poor rando teen and some chud was whining since the line long like a snake in Nibbles about to lose, and apparently he clocked me, so he started ranting that young girls these days lack any work ethic and began on some sexist , ableist and transphobic rant about young women these days being all mentally ill, the poor teen as being pierced and therefore forever unattractive and me as bearded. A bit later I rung him and his bigoted wife up and they tried to start shit and be hostile, but I played my extra thick and friendly cashier ploy that works 99.99% of the time with such sorts and it threw them off, I had to card him for some reason and I wanted to say 'son I'm fuckin 35, young girl? I'm older than you' Also had a bunch of elderly customers clock me, usually they don't and they just spammed misgendering to get a rise, you could see it in their eyes, again the whole thick cashier bit throws them off and the evil sparkle of delight go bye bye but not the
and sometimes they fume out the door. Usually I just get a lot of racism 'oh we're hiring illegals now' and people speaking the worst Spanish one can imagine. This week I must have critrolled failed something and am getting a little of everything. Can't wait to start that voice therapy session in a few weeks, maybe help somewhat with this.i dont envy cashiers. i feel like working in that job would make me want to install a giant cannon on my arm and knives instead of fingers
No kidding, only job around here that will take me being so many minorities though, so have to hold on.
Fuck everything about that. You're far kinder than I would've been. I would've been fired on the spot if I were in your shoes. Maybe arrested idk.
They're going to arrest me for the crime of existing as too many minorities in Murikkka at their leisure, I don't need to give them yet another excuse.
working checkout lines, i've come to the conclusion that the most important freedom in american culture is the freedom to tell someone else they're doing freedom wrong
im far too conflict averse to say that to someone's face, but I have found it shuts down annoying people online
I can't be direct and blunt since the job I'm in is totally into positivity including the toxic sort, so theoretically I could say mad shit to people if I could figure out how to cloak it in pure sunshine and rainbows. Being overly sarcastically manically friendly when they're obviously trying to be an evil bigot or a mere nuisance is the best I can do. My cousin also works with the public and just starts working really slowly when they fuck with him, more he's fucked with slower he goes, sometimes I do that too especially when they're mean and in a rush.
I find cranking up the polite, repeating myself, and lowering the personable works. Although that's usually when a customer is being rude to other customers.
I don't know if this is the right place to discuss this, but I strongly suspect Bushnell was a trans person. I base this argument on their Twitch channel name, which is Lilyanarkitty.
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Searching for "anarkitty," besides pointing to Bushnell, gives me the pseudonym of an artist named Emma Geary, a genderfluid fictional character, and a defunct Twitter account who went by QueerfemSchmutz. So, this name has clear gender connotations, ones that are decidedly non-cishet male.
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The "Lily" is self-explanatory and might be the actual name Bushnell wants to be remembered as. Bushnell chose to record their final moments using a channel name that starts with a fairly common and unambiguous woman's name.
There's also precedent back in 2019 when another anarchist who might have been a trans woman tried firebombing an ICE concentration camp with Molotov cocktails. I forgot what the consensus of van Spronsen's gender identity was, but I remember the argument that van Spronsen was a trans woman to be fairly compelling. I think the main argument was that van Spronsen repeatedly used a pseudonym that was a composite of the names of famous women.
I no longer feel comfortable using Bushnell's reported first name or even using he/him pronouns.
Edit: They had a Reddit account called acebush1. I browsed through some of the posts, and it's consistent with what we know about Bushnell, an anarchist who's also in the USAF. The username also makes sense, "bush" being the shortened form of their last name Bushnell. None of the posts I've seen stands out as eggy at all, but there's also this. If this is true, then Bushnell's original Twitch channel name was just acebush1 that they then changed to lilyanarkitty. So, we can rule out the channel being the channel of Bushnell's hypothetical anarchist partner named Lily.
There appears to be more evidence every day to support this hypothesis. And I've seen it before, so many times. A lot of repressed US transfems go into the military in the hopes it will "fix" then, make them proper men. It's deeply traumatic for most I've spoken to.
Even as we honor Bushnell's commitment, I want to remind anyone who reads this that a long life of organized anticapitalist action does far damage to the imperial state than a single act of self-annihilation. Stay with us. Play the long game.
Oh my God you just awakened some core thought from my deeply closeted teenage years. This is so true. So glad I never enlisted. Got really close though.
I had the same thought when I saw the Twitch channel "LillyAnarKitty" with the anarchist avatar. Why would a cis guy call themselves that? That's a very femme coded name, so I instantly got trans vibes. Lilly also happens to be a common transfemme name.
I couldn't find anything specifically trans-related on their Reddit account though, except for this:
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Which, by itself doesn't say anything about a person's gender identity, because a cis comrade could've posted something like that as well. But it does show that this person was aggressively anti-TERF, which combined with the femme coded name on Twitch does add more weight to the possibility that they could've been trans.
Either way, rest in power, comrade Bushnell.
Aw, that's sad. Also annoying. Wish Bushnell could've left us a note or something... although maybe the plan was "okay I can't come out in my final defiant act, it'll be used against trans people who will survive me"
the thought that Bushnell would have to think about that in the final moments up to self-immolation is maddening...
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I got some of those big poofy knickerbocker pants and my dysphoria about having skinny hips doesn't stand a chance! I look so cool now.
nsfw and dysphoria
But I'm also dealing with medical issues that are leaving me feel like an inadequate girlfriend. Bottom dysphoria got me feeling like a mermaid, except the top half is a fish and the bottom half is a fish and I'm just a big floppy fish. Bf has been very understanding but it still really sucks and I need to find a doctor.
I'm kind of fuming this morning because there's some anti trans child talk being held at my uni tomorrow. Were an extremely mid school in a rural area, so I thought we might get a break from this shit. But apparently not.
It's hosted by some Christian debate lord group. The talk has the phrase "the philosophy of gender" in the title, so the philosophy department freaked out and sent out a very PC email reiterating that this was not sponsored by them. They also said we could talk to a philosophy faculty member if we feel sad I guess? They're all too happy to do ridiculous pronoun circles in their classes, but when actually bigotry shows up all they do is talk about their feelings.
Idk whatever, I need to just ignore and not care about this. I lack the precondition for action against these people, which is being organized with others. I do hope somebody like pulls the fire alarm or something, but it won't be me.
that really fucking sucks, your phil dept r dickheads for that but i also dont know if there's much they could do beyond making sure they aren't associated with this guy. keep yourself safe girlie!!!
I started dating someone! They are nonbinary and just amazing. This is the first time I have had a romantic relationship with anyone since transitioning, and I feel so seen for the first time. I hope I can do the same for them, they are so sweet and understanding.
why can't i just do a bibbity bobbity BIG FUCKING TITS and get some REAL HONKERS ya know?
indeed, humongous honkers muse be distributed equally amongst our trans masses
- Karl ':3' Marx
right over my head you may fire at will
