if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

  • keepcarrot [she/her]
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    9 months ago

    I think it can be (not always), but if someone is bothered by it I'm not going to bother them about it.

    One that annoyed me was saying "man" at the start of sentences. Like "man, this sucks", which seems to me like "Allah, this sucks". I'm not referring to people in the vicinity. But it took me a while to figure out what the annoyance was. Also only one person seemed to think I was referring to them and I stopped around them.