if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

  • Des [she/her, they/them]M
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    9 months ago

    makes sense. i think i say it because i'm originally from the more northern part of the mid atlantic and picked it up younger