i hope he's changed! and i'm glad people being shitty to trans women using femboys as a cudgel no longer have such a high profile tool to use! but i need people to understand this

  • Cromalin [she/her]
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    8 months ago

    I see those titles and I see someone attempting to explore their identity, albiet in a out-of-touch streamer way and with clickbaity headlines. Anyone who used him as ammunition against other trans people would've just clung onto something else as a weapon if he didn't make his content the way he did.

    Stop sowing division in the trans community over something petty.

    ok well this "petty" stuff causes real world harm and, i would like to say again, GETS PEOPLE KILLED. these ideas that he's leaning into and perpetuating get real trans women killed! that is by far the most important thing here, even if there's a bunch of other shitty things going on here. this is not sowing division, this is not petty, this is something that causes actual harm! like, in ways that aren't just a streamer feeling bad because all these trans women think he's one of them

    the people using him as a cudgel against transfems would have found other ways to attack us, but having someone so high profile is a uniquely potent form of ammunition that i have the right to be bitter about! i am mad about this shit! i am not advocate we burn him at the stake, i am simply saying i haven't forgotten it and i'm still angry!

    I think the way he made content potentially had a positive impact on many gender-nonconforming people, because he showed that you don't have to identify as trans in order to explore your identity and how you express yourself.

    good for them! i'm happy for anyone who feels that way! there are some in the comments of this post, i'm glad they found that way of learning to express themselves. i take issue with the phrasing "you don't have to identify as trans to x" because as mentioned transphobes often make that argument using him as an example, and the idea that pressure exerted by people suggesting people questioning their identity identify as trans could be a real problem compared to the massive, overwhelming pressure exerted by our transphobic (and especially transmisogynistic) society is both patently ridiculous and a transphobic trope

    but as mentioned i'm genuinely happy for anyone who felt like they understood themselves better thanks to his content

    You're upset that he "lied" about being on HRT? Did you tell everyone right away when you started HRT? I would imagine you told people when you were ready. Fin was still figuring out his flavor of gender-queerness and probably didn't want to be pigeon-holed into being called a transwoman by his community. He probably thought it was nessessary to reinforce the idea of "I'm a guy, but I look like a gal." through his videos so much to avoid that.

    you're right, i didn't tell everyone right away! i bet you think you're real smart for that one! the difference between me and f1nn5ter is that i was not selling myself as a cisgender man who looked like that, dealing with all those other tropes i've discussed and also (as has been brought up by a bunch of other people here) giving people a lot of body image issues when they compare themselves to him because if a CIS DUDE looks like that why can't i look better when i'm on hrt

    but that's hardly the most important point here. it sucks, but the important point is him repeating these deeply harmful tropes. i don't care if he had a hard time with people assuming he was a trans woman (as i mentioned earlier the idea that people pushing him in that way make a big impact comparatively is ridiculous, but i'll roll with it) the trap stuff is inexcusable to me. you cannot do that shit for so long without someone informing you why it's a problem, i refuse to believe no one told him to cut that specific shit out

    and it doesn't matter anyway because there's no fucking way he was titling the videos like that to make himself feel better about his gender, that's bullshit and you know it. the videos were titled and thumbnailed like that because leaning into scandalous transphobic tropes gets clicks. and i am allowed to be angry at him for that! you're acting like i have any power over him when i'm a broke removed in a different country expressing my frustration over the shit he's done that's hurt me and my friends and those like us. fuck off

    • Gaia [She/Her]@lemmygrad.ml
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      8 months ago

      Thank you for speaking the words in my heart and for educating and shutting down the normalization of transphobia and the sexualization of trans women. It's so frustrating to see people try to shut down legitimate concerns by displaying their ignorance in the material conditions of trans women.