• ashinadash [she/her]
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      7 months ago

      It's far fron uncommon to see but it has never not weirded me out personally. But again I'm just weird, I think the vast majority of people will not give you shit for it.

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          7 months ago

          It is entirely possible that the whole internet has agreed only to use "milf" in a joking context and everybody is entirely respectful to real people, so theoretically I could be dying on a non-existent hill. But I've talked to people and seen stuff that makes me believe not everybody can be trusted to act normal.

          Plus, the usual "jokes are the first step to legitimizing" blah blah etc

            • ashinadash [she/her]
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              7 months ago

              Hey thank u for saying this :) it does feel weird to me, always, to use sexualised descriptors for real people without their consent...

            • Cromalin [she/her]
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              7 months ago

              i definitely don't think she's saying the internet would have no misogyny if people stopped talking about milfs, just that it's another aspect that gets normalized

    • SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her]M
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      7 months ago

      It's basically telling someoe you want to redacted them which does seem creepy to me. I know it's thrown around and normalized so much that it can be easy to forget what it stands for, but now that it's in my head it weirds me out to hear someone call someone else a milf.

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        7 months ago

        I think the normalisation is weird, right? Society has two modes, one of which is "eugh women over 30 are dried up and gross xd" and the other of which is "awooooooga mommy milkers I'd let her do my milfy laundry amirite???" Super weirded out.

        awooga stalin-gun-1stalin-gun-2

        • SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her]M
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          7 months ago

          It is, and I think there's a huge internal conflict in any society that claims or aspires to puritanical values that at least partially explains it. And the porn industry also has a huge problem with contributing to the normalization of slurs, fetishization, and general creepiness.