• ashinadash [she/her]
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    6 months ago

    It's far fron uncommon to see but it has never not weirded me out personally. But again I'm just weird, I think the vast majority of people will not give you shit for it.

    • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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      6 months ago

      I feel like I would never refer to a real person as it unless they gave me explicit permission to. Only context I’ve used it in recent memory is referring to Eda in the Owl House

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        6 months ago

        It is entirely possible that the whole internet has agreed only to use "milf" in a joking context and everybody is entirely respectful to real people, so theoretically I could be dying on a non-existent hill. But I've talked to people and seen stuff that makes me believe not everybody can be trusted to act normal.

        Plus, the usual "jokes are the first step to legitimizing" blah blah etc

        • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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          6 months ago

          I think using any sexualized descriptor for anyone who’s real without their consent is questionable. I’m not trying to invalidate your emotions, it does seem to be a real phenomenon. But I wonder if it’s more like a channel of the internet’s misogyny than the root of it.

          • ashinadash [she/her]
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            6 months ago

            Hey thank u for saying this :) it does feel weird to me, always, to use sexualised descriptors for real people without their consent...

          • Cromalin [she/her]
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            6 months ago

            i definitely don't think she's saying the internet would have no misogyny if people stopped talking about milfs, just that it's another aspect that gets normalized

            • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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              6 months ago

              Sorry, I should have said! “‘not a root of it.” Feels like an example of a word that’s often used to sexualize people who don’t want to be, which is common for the internet to do with any nsfw or sexually related word.