no one at the lesbian bar even looked at me, I don’t think I’ve felt this sad in a long time. I guess i could have approached people or I was supposed to become a “regular” but why is it always the social anxious alone people who have to approach others? It wasn’t like I looked like a cis man fetishizer or something, I had a trans bracelet and a pronoun pin on and one of the gayest outfits I had on
I feel like if I wasn’t trans I would have been able to do SOMETHING. But I just don’t want to get clocked after going up to someone and then shit on for being a “straight man”
I’m trying really hard not to go into self harm thoughts right now
It's really fucked that the onus is always on the socially awkward people to take initiative, especially since being trans in a lesbian space can unfortunately complicate things dramatically. I don't blame you for not making any attempts at talking, I wouldn't have either.
If there is a smoking patio... hang out there? Could have some good luck. Smoking patio is where i strike up conversation with people like 95% of the time. It is hard though and like i also never approach people really but i go there in groups so things just kinda happen.
I'm also gonna see if you live near me so ima DM you juuuuuust in case we just so happen to live in the same city (there arnet many lesbian bars left so there's actually a decent chance?)
no one at the lesbian bar even looked at me, I don’t think I’ve felt this sad in a long time. I guess i could have approached people or I was supposed to become a “regular” but why is it always the social anxious alone people who have to approach others? It wasn’t like I looked like a cis man fetishizer or something, I had a trans bracelet and a pronoun pin on and one of the gayest outfits I had on
I feel like if I wasn’t trans I would have been able to do SOMETHING. But I just don’t want to get clocked after going up to someone and then shit on for being a “straight man”
I’m trying really hard not to go into self harm thoughts right now
It's really fucked that the onus is always on the socially awkward people to take initiative, especially since being trans in a lesbian space can unfortunately complicate things dramatically. I don't blame you for not making any attempts at talking, I wouldn't have either.
If there is a smoking patio... hang out there? Could have some good luck. Smoking patio is where i strike up conversation with people like 95% of the time. It is hard though and like i also never approach people really but i go there in groups so things just kinda happen.
I'm also gonna see if you live near me so ima DM you juuuuuust in case we just so happen to live in the same city (there arnet many lesbian bars left so there's actually a decent chance?)