I hope everyone had a great week! Hang out. Chat. Talk about what's going on. Have fun :3

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]
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    hexbear
    33
    3 months ago

    Posting from my hospital room this week. Hope everyone is doing well.

    CW: Talking about bottom surgery and some other icky things

    This week has been such a fantastic one for me. I got my bottom surgery done last Friday and I’m still in the hospital recovering from it. It has done an astronomical amount of good for me already and I still haven’t seen it. I am calmer. I feel as through the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel at peace for the first time in…ever I think. Like, I have been able to just sit here and pass out for no reason whatsoever. For most that sounds whatever, but I have never been able to do that. I’m smiling huge and wide and nothing can bring this girl down. I feel AMAZING!!!

    That said, there have been things I wasn’t expecting. Like for one, it feels like my scrotum has been scrunched, stretched out, and lain over a canvas. My dickhead feels like it’s being crushed and in 3 different places. And at times, if eels like my entire old package was collapsed into a singularity. It’s so weird. I just need to remind myself that they don’t exist anymore. :)

    Gods. What a fucking week. aubrey-happy

  • RedQuestionAsker2 [he/him, she/her]
    hexbear
    25
    3 months ago

    -explaining to a gamer-

    Okay, you know how sometimes you start a game, and you have to pick a build, but nobody really tells you anything about it, so you just pick the one that is recommended and looks easy? But after some time, you realize that you aren't having fun with that build, but people around are used to you playing that build? You want to respec, but respeccing costs money, and once you respec, there's gonna be a long period of you being really bad at playing your new build?. It's like that.

  • RedQuestionAsker2 [he/him, she/her]
    hexbear
    23
    3 months ago

    Been trying voice training, and I showed my wife my femme voice, and she, very supportively said, "it sounds really good. You sound like contrapoints :)))"

    🤮 🤮 🤮

  • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
    hexbear
    23
    edit-2
    3 months ago

    Gay for boys, straight for girls hexbear-bi-2

    sadness man why does this suck what gives

    trans-uno

    Gay Straight for boys, straight gay for girls hexbear-bi-2

    blob-no-thoughts oh wait this is much better now

    • machiabelly [she/her]
      hexbear
      16
      edit-2
      3 months ago

      Gay for girls! I never understood why I couldn't get things with women to feel right before!

      hexbear-lesbian solidarity hexbear-bi-2

      • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
        hexbear
        8
        3 months ago

        yeah, like, "why can't i find a gf???" it's because you keep trying to date straight girls lol

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
      hexbear
      8
      3 months ago

      I adore how much your own gender impacts your attraction, when you alter your own self it makes a huge difference to how you relate to & kiss other people. I fuckin love being a lesbian.

      • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
        hexbear
        6
        3 months ago

        yeah, I remember having the

        HIGHLY CISGENDER THOUGHT

        of being lowkey jealous of lesbians because deep down i knew sexual/romantic attraction hit different depending on where it came from and that as a cis guy i would just never be able to experience that

      • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
        hexbear
        16
        edit-2
        3 months ago

        punching shit into my spell and speak

        "EFF! YOU! CEE! KAY! TEE! EEE! ARE! EFF! ESS!"

  • kristina [she/her]M
    hexbear
    20
    3 months ago

    i feel like the easiest way to pass is to simply have long hair

    • Xx_Aru_xX [she/her]
      hexbear
      18
      3 months ago

      Yeah, especially if you live somewhere where men don't usually have long hair, that's why I get called "daughter" all the time

        • Xx_Aru_xX [she/her]
          hexbear
          14
          3 months ago

          "oh I totally enjoy this because it's humorous and I'm just a silly troll haha"

      • Xx_Aru_xX [she/her]
        hexbear
        11
        3 months ago

        speaking of which, they kept referring to me as a girl while I was waiting in the bread line right now

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
      hexbear
      10
      3 months ago

      Can confirm, which kinda sucks because having cool.short dykey hair should not preclude you being gendered correctly. But people assume, no goofyass MAN would keep such an incredible wavy butt-length waterfall in such amazing condition ✨

      • kristina [she/her]M
        hexbear
        9
        3 months ago

        It's pretty funny. All these transphobe are like "I can always tell" and then as soon as you grow your hair out 6 inches doing nothing else, they act like you're Snake under a cardboard box

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]
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    hexbear
    19
    3 months ago

    Still recovering. Will be going home later today, but I still have trapped gas in my shoulders causing me severe pain when I need to move. Also developed some nausea over the past 24 hours. Feeling generally unwell. Not sure if normal or something I should alert someone about.

    • @Oppo@lemmygrad.ml
      hexbear
      11
      3 months ago

      Since you're not sure, try to talk with someone, rather talk too much than too little.

      • SnowySkyes [she/her]
        hexagon
        M
        hexbear
        6
        3 months ago

        I managed to earlier. Apparently it’s fairly common for a while post-op, so I’m going to continue as normal for the time being.

        • yoink [she/her]
          hexbear
          6
          edit-2
          3 months ago

          can confirm, it shouldnt go on for too long but yeah your body is recovering - used to have to take anti-nausea tablets for a few weeks after

          also happy to answer any other questions around being post-op if you did have any! i'm about 5 years post trans-heart also congrats, glad things went well by the sounds of it !! Care-Comrade

  • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
    hexbear
    19
    edit-2
    3 months ago

    Forced feminisation, but instead of just being a kink you are on a mission to awaken all transfemmes to their identities :)

  • khizuo [ze/zir]
    hexbear
    18
    3 months ago

    I’ve made so many stenciled cloth patches recently and here are some I thought the mega might enjoy soviet-bashful

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    • lapis [fae/faer, comrade/them]
      hexbear
      12
      3 months ago

      do you have a source for the art for that hammer + sickle + gender symbols? that thing is fuckin' incredible.

      • khizuo [ze/zir]
        hexbear
        9
        3 months ago

        the original source seems to be this

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        on a side note, i realized after i had sent the images that the bottom photo accidentally got flipped sideways, lol

  • Yor [she/her]
    hexbear
    18
    3 months ago

    Rolling my eyes into the back of my head when I see transfems on reddit unironically saying hrt changes sexuality

    lea-why

    • charly4994 [she/her, comrade/them]
      hexbear
      8
      3 months ago

      Saw people talking about it on trans forums back in the late 00s and how it was a real thing and it freaked me out. Being over a decade into it at this point though I'd argue my sexuality is not different but I just know more details about it. At 16 it's pretty easy to be like "I like girls," paired with internalized homophobia and transphobia then going "I like girls thus I'm only into cis women." Once you take a hammer to some of the foundational parts of your identity it's a lot easier to reexamine some of those broad statements you made as a teen and find that maybe you're a bit more flexible than you thought or sometimes you push a bit too far and find that actually you're still not into guys even if they're easier to hit up because chasers are easy early validation when you're stuck in a dark place.

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
      hexbear
      8
      3 months ago

      So what's the lowdown on this, it's one of many weird "old wives tales" I always heard on reddit-logo and stormfront imageboard(4ch).

      • Yor [she/her]
        hexbear
        13
        3 months ago

        There's no basis for it at all. Transitioning just generally helps people realize things about themselves they may not have before. Some people get very weird and defensive though when it's pointed out that HRT doesn't do that shrug-outta-hecks

        • lapis [fae/faer, comrade/them]
          hexbear
          10
          edit-2
          3 months ago

          to be fair, this may feel like one's sexuality being changed by HRT, especially for the more extreme cases where someone's sexuality fully flips after they come to terms with their gender. and then when you mix in the average redditor level of self-awareness...

          for instance, it took me accepting myself as nonbinary and opening up to my own emotions via HRT to also accept myself as a lesbian who could aesthetically appreciate the male form, rather than a bisexual man.

        • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
          hexbear
          9
          3 months ago

          That makes a hell of a lot more sense =) Idk why the defensiveness, do they desire a biological explainer for their sexuality???

          • yoink [she/her]
            hexbear
            7
            3 months ago

            i think maybe its more that they need a rationalisation for why they were seemingly unengaged with their sexuality previously - also that a lot of people generally lack self-awareness of their sexuality, especially if you spend your time pre-transition trying your hardest to fit the mold

        • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
          hexbear
          9
          3 months ago

          I haven't heard anyone say that HRT doesn't change sexuality before but I sure hope it doesn't. Suddenly being no longer attracted to women might be the one of the few things that would make me detransition.

  • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
    hexbear
    17
    3 months ago

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    about a week before i was able to come out to myself as trans my dear trans femme friend sent me this poem to look over. i remember being moved by the second paragraph, but i couldn't make any sense of the third

    it all really is too clear now

    • RedQuestionAsker2 [he/him, she/her]
      hexbear
      10
      3 months ago

      That last paragraph reminds me when my anxiety had me at my lowest. Literally curled crying on the ground daily. Felt like I completely lost myself and had to reconstruct myself. I was clinging on for dear life. Literally every moment of holding on was a victory. Like the passage, I actually imagined having ropes to hold my mind together.

      So glad that's behind me now. Despite the pain I feel now, it pales in comparison to that. Feels like I can face anything now.

      Beautiful writing.

    • Florn [they/them]
      hexbear
      4
      3 months ago

      "Balloon on a string" is actually imagery I've thought of before myself

      • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
        hexbear
        5
        3 months ago

        for me it was more like a 100lb weight i strapped to my chest. this burden i just had to bear. I felt light and free when I finally was able to tell myself that I could take it off