As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It's for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
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you are just putting words in my mouth now as well as other comrades, which I don't appreciate. I am sorry for the indirect (which i admit I did do in my first paragraph. later I earnestly stated I was not talking about you when I spoke about passing) but frankly I didn't say any of that shit about you. I urge you to log off and do something more fulfilling with your time for a while until you're feeling better. you were advised to log off for being overly negative hours ago and you're still trawling the thread picking fights. fwiw you were doing a lot more than just illuminating the bad parts of being trans, you were acting combative and being mean to other users in response to people stating uncontroversial truths such as "cis women sometimes get misgendered". that aside, if what you want to do is wallow in negativity and not have anyone push back on that I think most would agree this isn't the place, yeah.
if you guys wanna wallow in positivity and not have anyone push back then yeah maybe this isn't the place for me.
Its not about 'wallowing in positivity', some people are in genuinely good spots and improving despite the awful things in this country. Its important to use spoiler tags properly so that these people don't get messed up, because this state can be tenuous. Its not 'realist' to be constantly negative, all it does is hurt yourself. How you can improve is material change and community, which are IRL things. If you need help with either of those, please message me, I have a big network I can draw on.
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And just to point out, I've been through some terrible, terrible things. But I can feel happy now. A lot of this is healing over time, being deeply entwined with my local trans community, and building a found family. I've been on the edge more times than I can count. Healing is a slow fucking process, and its very important to be respectful of everyone's current stage in healing.
I personally disagree with the implication that there's an enforced "toxic positivity" or whatever on here. negative and sensitive topics are discussed every mega. respectfully I feel you took it to an unacceptable level by picking fights with people trying to make you feel better and refusing to take anything said in response to you on board as a matter of course, even pushing back against simple truths. i really don't mean to sound cruel but it's a fair summation that you were spreading tttt brainworms. the types of trans spaces I like to be in are ones where that shit doesn't fly.