I sometimes wonder if I come across on here as having all this gender stuff all worked out... in reality, I'm just a huge fucking mess lol. I have no advice for coming out to parents because I got forcibly outed when I was a teenager, I'm just lucky that the worst that happened were a couple of really horrible transphobic conversations but no complete disowning. I'm not on T and I'm four years into all this, thanks to a combination of ADHD and living with my parents (who have no idea that I want to physically transition — my mom didn't even like the idea of me going on birth control.) I'm socially out for the most part but I girlmoded throughout all my time at my past job and I'm considering doing that again for my next. I haven't even legally changed my name yet. I still feel like I'm not great at this whole "being trans" thing and I don't know how to do half the stuff that's associated with it, like all the health insurance stuff is hell for my ADHD brain. Since I currently live with my parents I exist in this sort of half-closeted limbo state with them, like they know I'm not cis but because of my past bad experiences I just haven't pushed on it further.