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  • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]
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    2 months ago
    not stupid at all

    I wish I felt the "same species" way about other autistic people like you do... I guess it should provide some bridge of understanding but there are autistic people who I've chafed worse against than neurotypicals, sometimes. I dunno, I'm probably a little too doomer about the whole thing.

    you know, if i really think about it, i think that i worry about the same thing. i like you both, so that's 2/2 other autistic people i've met that i like, but while browsing around the internet sometimes i get this chafing feeling too from other autistic people (in spaces like Reddit, YouTube etc.). it's possible maybe i'm relating to a subtype, or maybe the characterization of autistic/non-autistc isn't actually that helpful, and it'd be better to find people i like to talk to by other qualities? for instance, i like people who think deeply about things, who get super into the things they enjoy, who don't try to "fit in" to general society, and who are confident in what they believe. those are the people i look up to.

    people of different neurotypes have very distinct material needs that may always need to have a distinction... some neurotypes and individual people's needs can clash, so I'm not entirely sure they'll ever go purely as utility labels.

    YES!!! this is exactly what I was thinking but couldn't put into words. thank you!

    Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein

    alright, time for a new book!

    obligatory daily reminder that hormones are not inherently gendered though

    true, should have put "fem" in quotes as i meant more into the cishet-normative gender "female," as in, i'm presenting more in line with the "female" side of the gender binary than ever, and yet i'm less binary on the inside than ever.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      2 months ago
      oh ok thank u

      i like you both, so that's 2/2 other autistic people i've met that i like,

      crush naw...

      But yeah it's just people stuff I guess.... I also dig the whole, 'thinks deeply about things & super into things they enjoy & doesn't try to fit in & confident in their own beliefs' person, which is common to but not universal for autistic people. There are people who infodump in huge paragraphs, and people who infodump by typing 97 single-line messages... Subtype, perhaps. Sadly autistic people often get their im-not-gonna-fit in or firm-beliefs crushed by ableism in their childhoods, which sucks. For what it's worth I think I do have a better hit rate with autistic people than allistics, usually. If I had a formula for finding people I liked that'd be rad.

      Oh np!! I would hope they'd become less important as the world becomes less neurotypical centric, at least. I dunno how far that can go but I have optimism about it.

      Gender Outlaw kinda slaps, skip the theatre kid shit and the play script but it's classic gender theory, I dig it. I think it mixes well with the Accelerationist Manifesto ✨

      Ohhhhh, that is a pretty good contrast honestly and I kinda feel it too. Good vibe!

      • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]
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        2 months ago

        Sadly autistic people often get their im-not-gonna-fit in or firm-beliefs crushed by ableism in their childhoods, which sucks.

        yeah, i had a bit of that tbh, but what was actually crushed was the entirety of me, not just those beliefs. i'm still working through it all.