I a long-winded way of saying “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”

This irks me chat. This is an elephant in the room that should be causing mass chaos

  • BearOfaTime@lemm.ee
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    2 months ago

    Of course who you know plays into it.

    The reality is that developing cohesive teams that work well together is the hardest thing to do in any business. It's why enterprises spend so much money on team building of any sort. Why they'll have basketball courts, volleyball courts, bowling, softball, and teams for them all.

    It's pretty amazing to watch people change at work when they are part of these things. Even more amazing to see it in yourself, even when you're aware of the purpose of such things.

    Having the technical skills is a baseline, being able to work well with others is the minimum, but everyone is looking for people who can lead - as we all have to lead when we have the expertise for the gap we're facing. So if you know one person because they've worked with someone on your team who works well with others, of course that makes them more attractive.

    It's kind of tiring hearing the NA complaint about this. Yes, we're not like most people, but screaming at the world to change to suit us is ineffective. The best we can do is work on figuring things out, and maybe getting individuals on board by engaging with them not adversarially, but as teammates trying to achieve a goal together.

    Because even NT kids poorly raised with crappy attitudes aren't going to be sought after.

    In the end, build your social net. Work on developing your own "team" - people you've met along the way that would make good teammates.

    Stay in touch (there are systems for this, sales people are really good at it, see what they do, maybe get one into your circle). We may find the soft skills annoyingly, confoundingly irrational, but it doesn't change they exist, it's the way the world works, and we're not changing that.