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  • magi [null/void]M
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    4 months ago

    being able to perceive things about other people?

    When I was young I was similar to how you describe in your first two paragraphs. I would take people at face value because I'd assume people were similar to me. I guess between being taken advantage of and being blind to things I made a concemtated effort to not let that happen going forward.

    fairly common autistic experience to not be able to tell when people are making fun of you

    I got bullued a lot so I'm very perceptive of people taking the piss and I'm hyper aware of it. My natural mode is analysis too so I'm always looking for info and I default to psychoanalysis (I was great at psychology). I can sense emotion with my empathy more than from facial cues. For example if someone is upset or angry I feel it. I am wary of me staring a hole through people (autistic trait) but I can tell when I'm being looked/stared at.

    I spent years analysing people so I can see between the lines so to speak too. My brand of autism comes with heightened senses too, smell and sound are tweaked so I can smell odours in separate rooms and my hearing range is in the upper human range. Unfortunately my sight is hampered with an astigmatism, I also have light sensitivity and need to sleep with a sleep mask. I also have misophonia so you have cons with the benefits.

    I simply don't perceive things.

    I'd say a lot of this can be worked on, a lot can be gained by paying attention to people around you, make mental notes of little details etc.

    • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]
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      4 months ago

      sorry to but (butt?) in, but i'm curious about this:

      For example if someone is upset or angry I feel it.

      do you ever struggle to identify which emotions are yours vs. other people's?

      • magi [null/void]M
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        4 months ago

        I struggle to feel happiness, I sometimes can tell in hindsight. Like if I notice I am humming but this would be a later acknowledgement like hours or a day later thinking back on the previous day.

        Other people I feel their emotions more than my own at times, especially elevated emotion. Sometimes I don't know how to feel. Mostly for myself I feel nothing or level.