Hi comrades, want to give you all an informal update on the discussions around the site's misogyny problems that've been happening over the last several days. I wanna make sure you know that the admin/mod team has seen all of that discourse and we've been actively discussing solutions in the matrix mod chat. We're taking this shit very seriously and acknowledge that we haven't used a heavy enough hand on misogynistic rhetoric. As some of you saw we nuked that cheating thread from a couple weeks ago and handed out temp bans to the most egregious offenders. Idk how that was allowed to run it's course but we apologize for that oversight. We're going to do better.
We've come up with some ideas for how to improve this part of the site culture and we want to get suggestions from y'all as well, since the alarm was sounded on this by our beautiful c/traa posters to begin with. Our ideas so far include:
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A zero-tolerance policy towards any even remotely misogynistic/patriarchal posts or comments, as too much has slipped through the cracks on that, establishing a clear protocol for bans for violating rules against misogyny, and ideally tracking repeat offenders in a way that makes deciding a course of action easy when they reoffend.
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Uphold TC69 thought by starting up a book club (and hopefully more to follow) on feminist theory and encouraging mass participation, particularly from the he/him's on the site. "The Will to Change" by bell hooks has been suggested by multiple people as a great starting point but please feel free to suggest any other works.
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Relaunching /c/menby with a trusted educated mod team and a specific focus on countering mainstream narratives about masculinity, relationships and sex that breed reactionary, patriarchal attitudes
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Encouraging [namely femme] participation in /c/womenby and taking steps to revitalize that sub as an excellent source of discussion on feminism and intersectionality
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Holding another mod drive to get more folks into mod positions in our communities who can help weed out reactionary attitudes
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Encouraging users to use the report button often on any post that seems even remotely sus, with the promise that no one's going to be punished for "report abuse" for reporting posts in obvious good faith
Please let me know your thoughts on the above or any other ideas you have for making the site better, safer and more inclusive for our femme comrades. Once we've fully hammered out plans and updated policy we plan to make an announcement post highlighting these changes for the whole userbase. Thank you all for being here and being who you are 
It's been an issue for years. Was a routine experience for me to get hostile reactions from men whenever i posted anything in a thread about men and dating, these piggies are all fragile as hell, cannot even bear that something else than a heteronormative view on dating even exists and would also routinely talk down my lived experience as a trans woman who personally knows what experiences with gender are like both when you're read as a man and when you live as a woman, what it feels like to be on testosterone vs. being on estrogen etc. Mansplaining shits could never take a different perspective.
And as soon as this thread was pinned, the swine all started reliably crawling out of the woodwork. It's so easy to make reactionaries show their entire ass. If you want to see what i mean, just look at the shit in the modlog, a good purge was long overdue. Some incel outright said that
CW 4chan tier misogyny
women having autonomy over who they date is "an existential threat" to him. MFer it's you who's the existential threat to others.
Oh gross, sorry you've had to experience that. I should review the modlog to see what folks have been doing. TBH I usually avoid threads about relationships outside of sometimes showing comrades in crisis some support. That spoiler thing is literal overt incel behavior wtf