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  • peterpaulmontgomery [they/them]
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    3 years ago

    agreed 100% when i started reducing the amount self deprcating "humor" i used i became more likable and also found myself less drained in social interactions because i didn't use them as opportunities to pointlessly shit on my self. also it's just uncomfortable as fuck when you meet someone and they immediately start """joking""" about killing themselves so it goes both ways.

  • WoofWoof91 [comrade/them]
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    3 years ago

    kinda the opposite for me tbh

    when i do the ridiculous self aggrandising humour my friends wonder if i'm joking or having a manic episode lmao

    • hahafuck [they/them]
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      3 years ago

      Tryna fantasize about a future life together with a cutie on a dating app is made much harder when they keep insisting they are imminently going to die of self-loathing

  • SuperNovaCouchGuy [any]
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    3 years ago

    If we're all going to take this virgin vs chad meme seriously then imo it really depends on the situation and whos doing it.

    My friends and I were all genuinely depressed as hell in school. We made self deprecating "shoot myself in the head rn lol" jokes because we understood it was cope and found solidarity through gallows humor among our group. We all know each other well. On the same note, we made quite a few overly self confident jokes too in a sarcastic way so no, they dont magically make everyone happier.

    However, when PMC normies randomly make suicide jokes to sound le edgy nd funneh, its fucked because (even though this is unconscious on their part) it belittles the experiences of people who genuinely have mental health problems through romanticization.

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
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      3 years ago

      Nonsense, irony don't require any kind of specific context to work

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
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      3 years ago

      It needs to be quickly coupled with something showing you are clearly dumb as shit

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
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      3 years ago

      It's not about real confidence, it's about being obviously joking

        • RNAi [he/him]
          hexagon
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          3 years ago

          with a little self deprecation right after the obvious exageration

        • Civility [none/use name]
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          3 years ago

          For me it's tone of voice, body language, the audience being people who know you at least a little, and being willing to drop the act immediately if people seem unsure/ask for clarification.

  • CopsDyingIsGood [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    This isn't even a joke, I did a lot of self deprecating humor when I was less confident and it made it a lot harder to build confidence

    • BigAssBlueBug [they/them]
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      3 years ago

      Why not just be genuine though

      What's the point in getting people to like you if they only like a persona,

      • Dinkdink [none/use name]
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        3 years ago

        I've always hated that advice: "just be yourself." What if being yourself is what people don't like? Then being yourself is the worst advice ever.

        Maybe people don't like you because you need to change.

          • Dinkdink [none/use name]
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            3 years ago

            Who said I was talking to people with clinical depression? To the rest of the world that's good advice. It worked for me. It turned out that being myself was the entire problem. I made changes, painful though they were, and life got better. Not a little bit better, a LOT better. Like night and day difference.

            If you are clinically depressed you may ignore my advice.

            • ventthrowaway [none/use name]
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              3 years ago

              the content of the meme was about suicidal jokes. depression is at least tangentially related if not the central topic of the meme you are posting indirectly in response to.

  • Shrek
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    3 years ago

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  • crime [she/her, any]
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    3 years ago

    Can confirm this works, switching over to the chad approach like fifteen years ago tremendously improved my self-confidence, overall social functioning, and people's opinions of me

    From there after I developed real confidence it was easy to tone it down

    • Dinkdink [none/use name]
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      3 years ago

      Method: ask yourself, "What would a confident man do in this situation?" And then do that.

      It works sometimes. Then that leads to real confidence. It's a life-saver. Literally.

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
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      3 years ago

      Why don't people just stop not being a chad?

  • AssaultRifle15 [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    Affected overconfidence screams insecurity, I'd rather you just tell me you're pathetic with your indoor voice.

    • RNAi [he/him]
      hexagon
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      3 years ago

      The key word is absurd.

      Say you ugly and you know it and accept it, it's fine to say "mmmhh goddamit I'm so fucking sexy damn I can barely stop myself from coating me in butter and dance"

  • Sen_Jen [they/them]
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    3 years ago

    I cant believe people are struggling over this.

    Look, the post isnt that deep. If you mess something up, say "I'm the best in the world ever" instead of "oh shit, yeah I suck at this, you guys just do it better". It actually does help with your self-confidence and it is more fun for a group.