I feel like it's oppressive when it's not your call. If I'm performing masculinity because it feels right, that's my choice. If I'm being told I have to perform masculinity regardless of my feelings in the matter, that's oppressive.
This is kind of the TERF thing where they claim trans women are problematically reinforcing gender roles or whatever.
Not calling you a TERF of course, that's just a wrong thing they believe.
Identifying in a particular way or expressing your gender in a particular way, even one that's very compliant with traditional notions of masculinity and femininity, isn't a problem.
"Reinforcing traditional gender roles" doesn't start until you're shaming others for their choices.
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I feel like it's oppressive when it's not your call. If I'm performing masculinity because it feels right, that's my choice. If I'm being told I have to perform masculinity regardless of my feelings in the matter, that's oppressive.
This is kind of the TERF thing where they claim trans women are problematically reinforcing gender roles or whatever.
Not calling you a TERF of course, that's just a wrong thing they believe.
Identifying in a particular way or expressing your gender in a particular way, even one that's very compliant with traditional notions of masculinity and femininity, isn't a problem.
"Reinforcing traditional gender roles" doesn't start until you're shaming others for their choices.
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Have a read of this. I found it useful for putting gender in a material context.