they're supportive of trans people until its their own kid. matching the furniture is a pretty apt comparison, because time and time again ive seen parents who were "progressive" be absolutely destroyed over their kid being trans, because somehow that makes the kid they raised "gone" in their eyes. its very dumb and stupid and also why im not out to my "progressive" parents bc im completely sure they'll react like that too
This shit sucks so hard and my friend I think is going through it with her mom who she expected to be totally fine. My dad is just reactionary and transphobic. Mom... idk. We'll see what happens but I'm not coming out until necessary
Yeah, it really does suck to see. Gonna CW this cause it's some of my fears around it
Cw: Transphobia
spoiler
My own dad made a joke to me (I'm not out yet) about a trans woman we know being "half a woman" and then kept calling her a transvestite. I explained the difference and he just scoffed.. idk how he's gonna react to me coming out lol. But with my friend -
Really, what's happening with my friend is that she's pretty sure that her mom basically just sees my friend as "playing pretend" at being a girl. These are my friends words. Like, her mom still acts like she's the only woman in a family of men, constantly misgenders (accidentally and corrects herself), and just gives off the vibe that she just doesn't see at all.
This is definitely my biggest fear and why I generally, at this moment, stay away from cishet women. At least for me, being perceived as a man in women's clothing or some kind of imposter is really my biggest fear. Because like I don't want to be perceived as some kind of moster or predator or something. I just want to live my life and be seen as who I am.
Someone else mentioned some indigenous cultures having basically gender neutral childhoods and then coming of age "coming out" as your gender at a certain age. I dont know if that's real or anything, I've never heard of it, but it sounds so much better. So much easier. And so much more free. Hell I maybe would have realized I was trans so much longer ago if I had to really examine it and if it was actually encouraged.
they're supportive of trans people until its their own kid. matching the furniture is a pretty apt comparison, because time and time again ive seen parents who were "progressive" be absolutely destroyed over their kid being trans, because somehow that makes the kid they raised "gone" in their eyes. its very dumb and stupid and also why im not out to my "progressive" parents bc im completely sure they'll react like that too
This shit sucks so hard and my friend I think is going through it with her mom who she expected to be totally fine. My dad is just reactionary and transphobic. Mom... idk. We'll see what happens but I'm not coming out until necessary
yea i have a friend going through it right now too. really sucks to see, she thought it'd be fine and it ruined her entire relationship.
Yeah, it really does suck to see. Gonna CW this cause it's some of my fears around it
Cw: Transphobia
spoiler
My own dad made a joke to me (I'm not out yet) about a trans woman we know being "half a woman" and then kept calling her a transvestite. I explained the difference and he just scoffed.. idk how he's gonna react to me coming out lol. But with my friend -
Really, what's happening with my friend is that she's pretty sure that her mom basically just sees my friend as "playing pretend" at being a girl. These are my friends words. Like, her mom still acts like she's the only woman in a family of men, constantly misgenders (accidentally and corrects herself), and just gives off the vibe that she just doesn't see at all.
This is definitely my biggest fear and why I generally, at this moment, stay away from cishet women. At least for me, being perceived as a man in women's clothing or some kind of imposter is really my biggest fear. Because like I don't want to be perceived as some kind of moster or predator or something. I just want to live my life and be seen as who I am.
Someone else mentioned some indigenous cultures having basically gender neutral childhoods and then coming of age "coming out" as your gender at a certain age. I dont know if that's real or anything, I've never heard of it, but it sounds so much better. So much easier. And so much more free. Hell I maybe would have realized I was trans so much longer ago if I had to really examine it and if it was actually encouraged.
Stay safe comrade
Thankfully we live on opposite sides of the country, I'm independent at this point