i'm not advocating for people to not know what gender a kid was assigned at birth or anything (in the short term, it would be nice to live in that world someday), just be chill about it. don't make it a big deal, don't go have a party to celebrate it, and when you tell people don't frame it as you being incredibly excited to have a baby of the gender they've been assigned. don't say "my partner and i are having a baby!" and then later go "oh my god i'm so happy it's a boy!" or anything like that

i mean, i might still get a little grumpy if you feel the need to tell me about how you got the ultrasound and saw your kids genitals but i recognize that that's not actually that big a deal if you're chill about the other stuff and i probably won't think less of you