come chat and vibe and vent. anything fun happen lately?
Why, thank you.
It's a hassle doing that and university, but I'm glad I got it.
on the down note, these interviews are eating from the inside out with anxiety.
Getting a job? I just got myself an internship for a news outlet.
Been trying to help my younger cousin out with dating. He's on every app and has dealt with constant ghosting to the point that it's made him a little depressed. It's still weird to me that dating apps are so normalized because I remember when being on one of those old dating sites like Eharmony would make people laugh at you.
Dating apps are designed to extract as much profit from the user as possible. So the dating apps are actually working as intended if your cousin isn't getting any dates. They promote unhealthy objectification of other people through their systems and also are incredibly monetized. On the computing side, they are centralized network services that no one except the corporation has any ability to inspect. The apps themselves are also nonfree software that are filled with spyware and targeted advertising. In a capitalist society, dating has become another market for capitalists to exploit.
Everyone laughed at people who used dating apps without actually reckoning with why these apps were so popular in the first place, now future generations will have to suffer without ever knowing a world where those apps didn't exist.
All is to say, I'm glad you're supporting your cousin as much as possible.
Internalized racism got me good way back when I used these apps and didn't know better
I think the highs and lows of my [diagnosable parts of my brain] are leveling off a little bit.
Instead of just abstract pain or discomfort, I can articulate what's specifically going on that's bothering me. It's work, but it's work for me to improve myself.
I'm encountering apathy when I describe my experience to people in my circle and that's a sign I need to change my circle. For instance, I tried to explain how personal grooming as a masculine presenting person of color is often a matter of safety. If I look unkempt in the wrong place, people will start asking questions or sending cops. It's not being paranoid or cynical to associate safety with grooming when you live in a racist area.
It's not being paranoid or cynical to associate safety with grooming when you live in a racist area.
i struggle to explain this to my non black partner
My dad believes that a sauce/dip is bad if you can flip the container and it spills. This is a universal principle whether he's talking hummus, gravy or pasta sauce. He won't eat spaghetti if the sauce is a liquid.
What? Does he also believe buttered toast always falls on the ground butter-side down?
He doesn't use butter if he can get away with it. He's an olive oil man. Which is a liquid, and I know that doesn't vibe with his whole deal. But it's his one exception.
Ok, notwithstanding any other factors, to rephrase my question, so does he believe oiled-focaccia bread fall on the ground oil-side down?
Do not avoid the question or I will make you face le son du canon!
Any food that is spilled, dropped or discarded was bad anyway. He's fully sour grapes pilled.
Aye, guess he's quite firm on his position... not that it's a bad view to take...
I got that, just wanted to share my potentially controversial point as agitprop.
Have you heard of the buttered-bread cat dilemma
Essentially: If buttered-bread falls butter side down
et
Cat falls always on their feet
If I drop a cat, tied with a buttered toast, upside down, will they land on their feet or not?
What we should do is put buttered bread on pandas' backs.
Could probably single-handedly save that entire clumsy species.
I mean, it'll be as a cruel as the cat experiment, but ben voyons donc I suppose...
Far less cruel, in my opinion. With cats you put them in a loop.
But have you seen pandas fall? They fall hard right on their ass.
This could help them.
I mean, I'ven't seen a panda before, so I guess that helps...
I did good work today. Hope I get a day off tomorrow. I just wanna be lazy
Oh yey? Well, I had my exam review day done as well... so I also have a day off before a new semester starts...
Edit: we all are lucky on this blessed day!
I feel that.
I got another assignment for my internship that's due Friday (which is great 'cause I don't have to get to it immediately, especially given the nature of it).
But all the same: I really should get to it eventually and, for some reason, I'm already feeling a sense of procrastination.
Chances are, I'll just throw myself into it if I have to (and maybe ask for some help on using some software) so I'm not too worried.
CW: homophobic attitudes (light).
My mom keeps telling me that she wants me to have an arranged marriage with a girl in Bangladesh. Emphasis on "girl" because the people she's showing me are like still in high school (wtf but also high school works differently so they're like 2-4 years younger than me). I usually just tell her no and that I'm focusing on my studies right now. She's been getting really insistent lately and keeps telling me that she'll be really lonely if I don't marry a woman she can treat as her personal daughter in law. Fyi both my parents know I'm only romantically interested/attracted to men but my mom is like "marry someone and forget her" which really fucks my shit up considering that a lot of my family is a result of arranged marriages but my parents actually got together because they loved each other.
Part of me just wants to leave my family forever and go no contact but another part of me that's horrified for thinking that, but then another part of me gets so heated and I start losing myself.
blegh
i am seeing a really big musical on Friday. aaaahhhhhhhhhh. so excited, its one of my favorite musicals and I've only seen in on youtube "slime tutorials".
cant say, its a big national tour and if I say the name it would immediately dox me.
Ngl, I do love underrated stuff. I'm pretty much a hipster or whatever you call it.
I do actually want to watch Shen Yun, I just don't want to pay them for it.
I saw it like a decade ago.
There were legit like two dance numbers where the communists come out and murder the other dancers.
I joined a volunteering club and got to meet some new people. I also dropped one of my classes and I'm feeling less stressed overall.
I want to do an exchange program to Argentina but I'm scared of the anarcho-capitalist being golpe'd de estado (military coup) while I'm there and being deported/forced to leave. If I want an uncomplicated study abroad to a spanish speaking country I could just go to Spain but that would mean I would still be in my comfort zone of the Global North.
I wish the US didn't violate the entirety of America Latina for centuries.
As a Latino, I feel that last part.
As for Spain, there are a lot of communists there (though for various reasons, Spain's CPs aren't that good or big) and a lot of good Spanish-language classes too. Spain is also the "periphery" of European nations... not that that's saying much; they still have a say in Europe, even if they're economically weak comparatively. Good working-class history though; a good number of former members of the Abraham Lincoln Brigade and some archivists studying that period live there, I think, last I heard. If not Spain, then Bolivia (but you'll have to deal with air-sickness at first; every foreigner does).
Yeah argentina’s looking real rough as a place to visit for any reason. Policies are changing hour by hour especially for travelers. Being Mexican i want to say fuck spain and avoid it but i’ve heard the southern parts near Portugal are pretty amazing. It would be a great way to experience some well planned urban areas. I would definitely consider especially if you don’t speak spanish fluently since it can help open doors to other spanish speaking countries to study in.
I've been to Madrid during high school for a study abroad, I loved going on the metro as well as seeing what an actually good planned city is like (against US cities at least). The southern parts of Spain also sound interesting but I'm also looking at Chile as well which is on my available programs list.
I've also already been to Costa Rica for a short program for university already so I have experience in living in hispanic countries.
Nevermind then, Fuck spain lol. Go to Chile its such an amazing country rich with history and culture. Super unique architecture and so many natural and manmade wonders.
Why not try Uruguay? It's really similar in many ways and if you stay in Montevideo then you can just take a cheap ferry to Buenos Aires whenever you feel like checking it out.
I'm limited to what's offered by the SUNY system (for financial aid qualification) which does not seem to have semester long exchange programs to Uruguay or Bolivia.
Damn...
Bolivia is a great country and you may have loved it; I know I did.
There's nothing stopping me after undergraduate education, who knows, maybe a working class party will take control of Argentina by then.
Tbf, Loki shan't be compared to the likes of him...
I always get a bit taken aback whenever people come to me for advice. Working retail I work with younger people and I always forget that I'm their elder. And more so now that I'm a lead/manager. Someone recently came to me for advice for an interview and I'm really glad I could help them out.
Speaking of work, I was recently floated the possibility of a promotion. I'd probably be traveling a lot more depending on the position. Nothing concrete though, but I'm cautiously optimistic.
Nah, older. I just haven't gotten used to the idea of being significantly older than my coworkers.
Lemme guess again, 30s,
Note: I can't believe being in your 30s is between your college/university years and the start of your middle age era...
my partner is also a poc.
she has suffered me for so so long. she takes care of me, and took care of me when i was cruel and selfish and hurt her with every word. i still do it, and i am much worse now.
i wish she did not love me, i still cannot understand. how can someone have so much love in their heart? she has so much life in her she gives me the will to live. she lives for the both of us.
she hates white people a lot. she didn't hate them so much in the past, now that she's working she's become very radicalized. i just can't bring myself to hate these individuals. i'm dispassionate and disappointed, i wish i could redirect some of the awfulness i put on her and on others who supported me to work to something useful.
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
The current father also had a child with my mother and is against me telling my sibling about racism, even though it will affect him, as it does already.
This is so perplexing. White people who refuse to acknowledge that racism is real are the worst, I'm so sorry
Thanks friend, people will really do anything but discuss topics that make them feel guilty or uncomfortable in fear of feeling complicit...making themselves complicit in turn lol
I've lost touch with my family so I don't know how the marriages turned out but some of the women in my extended family married hwite dudes. there's less of a fetish thing with brown women though so idk. WMAF couples always make me wonder how much of it is fetish and how much of it is real.
Yeah, it's kind of hard to look at WMAF couples in a normal way when there isn't a shortage of white men who say they have an "Asian preference" just because their attempts with white women failed and they think of Asian women as "more docile and submissive"... yuck.
I like that the avi of this comm at least has multiple BIPOC representatives rather than just one BIPOC group being represented.
I'm happy with the banner, but I could've made it a bit more, err, multiracial, so to speak (it was kinda made on the fly and rushed out).
so far no ones complained so lets roll with it lol .
How'd ye know... you check the mod demographics or somefin'?
really is annoying that the only Langston Hughes poem hexbear users know is the one about a white man.
I only know Harlem, and it's really only for that first line. "What happens to a dream deferred".
its a good one. my favorite poem of all time is Kids who die.
