[CW: Abuse From Family, Death, Enbyphobia, Exclusionism, Transphobia]
It's 2024, my friends.
I've talked a lot about my concerns about the transgender community being enbyphobic very vocally here on Hexbear. I thought more and more people were gaining awareness and understanding that all of this bigoted, infighting shit is dumb, but I guess I was wrong. I took a peek on r/asktransgender (a subreddit that I generally assumed to be accepting, back when I normally browsed Reddit), and I saw a few enbyphobes just shouting desires for explicit exclusion and divide between non-binary and binary trans people while asserting that non-binary people shouldn't consider themselves trans.
Now as much of a low bar as this is, at least, since the posts have been up, they haven't been getting upvoted at all, and it's in a sea of a larger thread of general enby inclusiveness, but my issue is... why, especially in broadly affirming trans communities, does this shit have to exist in the first place? Like I said before, I see driving to exclude non-binary from the trans community tantamount to a fish with scales telling a fish without scales that it's not actually a fish simply because the fish without scales lacks a part that it emphasizes so much of its essence in having. It's ridiculous, futile, pointless, stupid, and it just needs to fucking stop. I'm tired.
I'm tired of having gone through so much bullshit from cishet people. I hate that my own family treated me disrespectfully and refused to support or even accept the reality that this is just my path in life. Between my own father calling me slurs, namely the f- and r- ones, him telling me that he'd like me to die because I'm queer, and my folks ultimately eventually kicking me out, I'm fucking sick of it. Then, like many other binary trans people, here I am going through and striving to achieve many of the usual motions of gender transition, with all the financial, social, medical, and legal hurdles that many binary trans people go through, in Florida of all fucking places.
Why the HELL did I go through and continue to go through all of that to still have to see massive pieces of shit who are trans saying "You're a slightly bent kind of trans, so get the fuck out.". And go to where? It's not like I can have much trust in cishet people anymore either. I have virtually no family. It's too fucking isolating for a group of people that's often rejected on the basis of being "freaks" and going through the exact same struggles I'm going through, still finding me "too weird and wrong" to be among them.
I'm happy that it's not being massively agreed with, but the fact that people still hold these toxic cisheteronormative and assimilationist views dead-set on upholding the gender binary, even for trans people, is baffling. Why the hell are there trans people that still do this??? Like I said when I started it off:
It's 2024, my friends. The trans community needs to get its shit together, especially when this country is so fucking backwards to a point where people are actively supporting policies, rhetoric, and sentiments that get us killed and targeted. Can we just stop the needless, exclusionary BULLSHIT ONCE AND FOR ALL!?
Reddit trans communities almost always have an awful transmed problem. There's just too many actual, dedicated truscum and /tttt/ subreddits on there, they will always leak into other trans spaces. The amount and severity of brainworms i've seen on there is completely unbelievable and in many cases, mods fail to fully commit to their supposed "no transphobia of any kind, including transmedicalism" rule - you can have luck with reporting posts like that in many places, but it doesn't always work, or some longtime posters happen to be mysteriously exempt from "no transmedicalism" rules, or moderation works at a glacial pace because volunteer mods on these subs can't keep up and reddit's global moderation simply wouldn't give a fuck even if they were able to understand what constitutes transmedicalism in the first place.
I've found reddit to be just all around awful for the mental health of trans people in general, even if we leave out the genuine truscums. A lot of the subs are massive dysphoria amplifiers, chasers are a real problem that frequently gets ignored by sitewide mods even if they act really aggressive in people's DMs, you're on the same site as legions of transphobes that the platform does next to nothing about, oh and it's also full of redditors. I strongly recommend to stop going there, it has improved my mood a lot to do so and i've lost nothing in return.
This is truth. I also reported the enbyphobes I found, and they've already been taken care of. I'm at a zero tolerance point for this kind of shit, so that gave me a good deal of relief.
