[CW: Transphobia]
As a non-binary person, I now have to operate under the assumption that any trans person I meet has a good chance of hating my guts simply because of my gender identity (ironic). I really fucking hate that I cannot undo this mindset because of how common transmedicalism and enbyphobia in the trans community has become.
I can't even see a post on social media that says something like "Trans Rights!!!" and not feel uncomfortable because my initial reaction has become "Does that include me, though? Do you support my rights?". I will always identify as trans, but I'm heavily frightened by the possibility that transphobic attacks I experience are not just gonna be from mostly cis people.
Now, at every fucking turn, I have to ponder if I belong in any trans spaces or not. After going through harsh amounts of abusive transphobia from cis people, having trans people go out of their way to exclude me has done more to make me feel alone than anything else, and it's absolutely not what I need right now.
You fucking do belong, and I make a point to include non-binary and other trans people that don't feel medical transitioning is for them. I hate hearing people mock non-binary identities, and genuinely feel excluded and afraid as well when people speak as such. I see it as fascistic and intentional stratification/division of the LGBTQIA+ community that will only leave its proponents with zero people defending them when the fascists run out of non-binary people to oppress.
I'm sorry you're being faced with these viewpoints, especially from trans people, who ought to recognize and help their own. I made friends with a trans woman who said some horrible shit about enbies and I haven't hung out with her since. I did try talking her down, but to no avail. Sorry for rambling a bit, my emotions about this are rather tumultuous.