i hope he's changed! and i'm glad people being shitty to trans women using femboys as a cudgel no longer have such a high profile tool to use! but i need people to understand this

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    i do not think f1nn5ter has a responsibility for that, and the hrt nondisclosure is not the problem here. it's something that's shitty, but not too different from other similar influencers not talking about things they've done to look the way they do. it feels a little worse here because f1nn5ter's whole thing was kind of directly about being a Cis Guy who looks like that and there's already a bunch of feelings and often dysphoria tied to his deal, but it isn't really any different from the examples given by say, redquestionasker2. if a fitness influencer were revealed to be using steroids when they claimed not to be in the middle of there already being a bunch of discourse about that person it would absolutely be something people criticized (as they should), though obviously there are some notable differences between the 2 examples

    i would not try and argue this was a big problem on its own, it's the trap stuff that is the real issue to me, because as i keep mentioning, that gets people killed. those ideas and tropes get trans women killed regularly. i think that's the important thing to take away from this

    i don't think anyone has said he was evil or a coward for staying closeted? the person you're responding to very clearly says it's totally fine for him to have stayed closeted, but it was a move that did hurt people in certain ways and i think it's important to be aware of that