i hope he's changed! and i'm glad people being shitty to trans women using femboys as a cudgel no longer have such a high profile tool to use! but i need people to understand this

  • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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    10 months ago

    Its worth noting that he's been on HRT for 6 months and people were leveling him against trans women well before that.

    Anyway as i said in my top level comment, I think this attitude is wrongheaded even if your bitterness is understandable, because it supports forced outing.

    • AutomatedPossum [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      Its worth noting that he's been on HRT for 6 months and people were leveling him against trans women well before that.

      Yeah, the problem here isn't the nondisclosure, it's that people tie acceptability as a trans person to "passing" and hold that over our heads. Putting this in scare quotes because passing as it is commonly understood doesn't mean "looks like a cis woman", but "meets a conventional, cishetnormative standard of beauty women are subjected to." What people in this comment chain rightfully complain about would have been thrown at them regardless of Finnster's hormone status, because it's just plain old transmisogyny. We've been judged by how fuckable we are to cishet dudes since at least the days of Ray Blanchard, when that consideration *was a direct part of if we were allowed to take HRT in the first place." We're talking about straight guys here. When an AMAB person tells them she's trans, wants to live as a woman fulltime and wants to access gender affirming care, the first thing these hogs wonder about is frequently "would i tap that"? And they often do not care about actual passing in the sense of "could i live stealth?", either, knowledge of our AGAB is a core part of chaser fantasies. Most of them will lie about all of this, but their lies are never particularly convincing. How hot we are by straight guy standards becomes the focal question in whether we're allowed to exist or whether we're too confusing to be allowed even as a guilty pleasure.

      Finnster has not created this mindset, he has become successful because his presentation matches such narratives, because his content fits into a deeply transmisogynist attention economy. This is something he has, ofc, deliberately utilized - but the main problem here is that he has played into invalidating "trap" discourses and the fetishization of fem-presenting GNC people, when he came out about what really isn't relevant here at all. All of the really problematic shit he's done works just the same for people who are open about taking HRT, as we see from the entire debacle around "transmaxxing" communities in incel spaces.

      We cannot expect transphobes to argue honestly. We cannot expect them to understand how HRT works, or how any other part of transitioning works, or how various gender identities work, and we cannot expect these guys to think with anything but their dicks. That's the problem, not if somebody piggybacking on their perception of genderqueerness needs half a year to make jokes about how the E makes his nipples hurt.