When I had braces as a kid, my mum would hit me with a wooden spoon in the mouth, because the braces would cut my cheeks and wouldn't leave a visible mark. Corporal punishment is never about punishment, it's about cruelty and adults unable to control their temper and violent impulses towards those who can't fight back.
should only be used on adults who think they should be allowed to hit children
Thoughts on hitting small defenseless vulnerable humans who are still developing?
Not only is it cruel, it also makes children fear their parents
I think there has been some cases with American evangelical psychos living in Norway being very butthurt and very loud because Norwegian authorities takes child abuse seriously and stepped in to protect their children.
I'm 32 fucking years old and I still don't know how to cope with panic attacks without yelling at or hitting things. It's humiliating.
And in hindsight I'm pretty sure Dad was the exact same way. Just passed down the family.
As a person who's father had some anger management issues and I'm pretty sure some of that I inherited/learned as a kid, this isn't exactly what most people mean by corporal punishment.
Though, if we were in a position where we'd get to decide on applying corporal punishment and what that would look like, depending on our mood it would definitely not make things better.
I got whooped as a kid and I turned out alright!
(THE DEMONS IN MY BRAIN YEARN FOR ESCAPE. AHHHGAGAHAHEHEHHFFUCKKKK)
Yeah, I turned out alright.
I think Corporals need to get punished if they break the rules. People of higher ranks need to be held accountable to the rules just like lower rank soldiers. I'm in favor of general punishment as well.
Hate it. Pretty sure its why I dont like to be touched, or be physically close, hugs, etc., among other things I struggle with, like mental health.
If I ever see my dad again I'm going to beat the dogshit out of him 😊 what goes around comes around 🤷🏿♂️
Researchwise, it can be as effective as other disciplinary choices in preventing behaviour but has a higher chance of trauma, hatred of parents etc. So there's no real reason to keep it in a parents toolbox. Ethically, no. Kids are still people, just inexperienced and vulnerable and largely unable to care for themselves. If you consider other people who fill that category, we don't want to build a society where we treat those people like that.
Reflecting on the circumstances where corporal punishment was meted out to me and other kids I knew, it was usually when a parent was disrespected or humiliated by their child, or the parent was in a tense situation and angered by the child somehow. This sort of reactive behaviour is not what you'd want even if you did believe corporal punishment was valid.
My ideal model of parenting is where the community raises a child and the onus is less on an individual parent but rather the community. This would also mean (possibly) that a child is less of a source of pride and denigration to one parent, reducing a source of that reactive behaviour.
it was usually when a parent was disrespected or humiliated by their child, or the parent was in a tense situation and angered by the child somehow. This sort of reactive behaviour is not what you’d want even if you did believe corporal punishment was valid
This, so much this- either that, or they'd just be taking out their frustrations from life on their kids. A lot of people do that.
My ideal model of parenting is where the community raises a child and the onus is less on an individual parent but rather the community. This would also mean (possibly) that a child is less of a source of pride and denigration to one parent, reducing a source of that reactive behaviour.
Marx's call for the abolition of the bourgeois family comes to mind. Children all too often are still treated as property, and exploited, abused, and controlled as such, even in the west.
Unfortunately, I feel like this is one of those things that would change quite slowly post-revolution
My ideal model of parenting is where the community raises a child and the onus is less on an individual parent but rather the community.
I wish. I remember reading the manifesto and then looking further into the communist views on family, and I feel like communism clicked so hard so fast for me, because it reflected the views I already had, which helped prune my defeatism from existing in an uncaring world into wishing to fight for what the world can be, as proven by AES countries.
