• Circra [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    How the fuck do people mess up this badly? Surely him talking to his fiancee shoulda gone like 'Hey, so I have an award ceremony coming up. My co workers are massive bellends who somehow think it's not manly if you come too and somehow they also think they are cowboys. I'd personally love to have you there, but I'd understand if you didn't wanna come along cos of all that crap.'

    You really shouldn't be putting on a front for someone you are planning to spend your life with cos that is just amazingly emotionally unhealthy for both of you but somehow he's gone one worse and has put on a front for someone else for his fiancee?

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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      2 years ago

      Some of the shit I read on AITA and /r/Relationship advice cause serious damage to my faith in humanity. Not just that people are so brutally unkind, but also that people get to the point of these really, really serious problems without running for the exit. A lot of the time it feels like the victim was just never told that they can stand up for themselves and that they deserve respect and consideration.

      • Juiceyb [any]
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        2 years ago

        That’s what happens when parents are working 120 hours and not talking to their kids. I swear, I grew up in a “middle class” neighborhood and most of the kids I grew up are like this.

    • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]
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      2 years ago

      How the fuck do people mess up this badly? Surely him talking to his fiancee shoulda gone like ‘Hey, so I have an award ceremony coming up. My co workers are massive bellends who somehow think it’s not manly if you come too and somehow they also think they are cowboys. I’d personally love to have you there, but I’d understand if you didn’t wanna come along cos of all that crap.’

      He should've just not tell the fiance about the award ceremony instead of going, "Sorry, you can't come because no girls allowed" lmao.

      • Circra [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        I dunno not telling her seems pretty deceptive. I'd be kinda upset if my wife was invited to an award ceremony but didn't tell me cos she had been pressured into not inviting me. It'd feel like she thought I couldn't handle knowing about it which at best would seem patronising.

        • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]
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          2 years ago

          I wasn't clear in my comment. He obviously should bring his fiance to the award ceremony because if nothing else, he's not going to stay in that company for more than a decade, especially with the recession that's happening. while a marriage is a potential lifetime relationship. Not only was he convinced by some coworker like a dumbass, but he also did it in the least socially competent way possible.

          But I suppose this is to be expected from your average Redditor.

          • Circra [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            Ah right yeah that makes more sense! Yeah sometimes I think stuff like this is made up but I dunno I have met ppl like this.