Obvs this doesn't apply to all transfems but I kinda relate to this but Idk how to put it in words exactly since gender is weird.

The way I think about myself is I like being referred to and perceived as as a girl/woman but I don't fully identify with being a girl/woman. (and in some contexts, I'm ok with being seen as a boy/femboy as well).

Cisgender ideology also makes it hard to describe gender outside the conformist binary notion.