Why would you want to spend the entire rest of your fucking life with some other person? Just…constantly in your shit? No privacy? No thank you.
I can understand hooking up or going on a few dates? But living with someone? Ew.
Is Maoism anti-sex? It's still so weird to me how aggressively anti-sex so many post colonial cultures are.
No, I get that. But everytime you go home, there's that other person. You go to bed, there's that other person. Even your bathroom is shared by someone else! That's what I mean. And you have to constantly do things together (even if not 100% of the time). I just can't deal with all that.
I've never done it, but I can imagine the idea of coming home to someone you can cuddle and possibly offload some mental tasks on being appealing
I wish I was AroAce. Life would be so much simpler. But as I'm right now, I always have to deal with these feelings for other people AND not want to have to deal with them. It's hard and confusing and I don't like it.
listening to non-aro friends gripe about relationship stuff, i kinda feel lucky myself
That's where I am. It would be very convenient if I did not feel attraction to others but that is not the situation
This just sounds myopic, you can date someone long term without it being a lifetime commitment or having to move in together
Also, like, get a two bedroom place
that's way too much pressure to put on a relationship I am often irritated by people I love
I've spent my whole life cohabitating - family, college roommates, early career roommates, girlfriend moved in with my career roommates, I moved out with girlfriend and then we got married
Literally couldn't not handle living entirely on my own. I would shrivel up and die.
Incidentally, one of the first things that made the idea of Communism sound cool was the... you know... big shared communal living spaces
I like my wife. I like my kid.
It's not for everyone, but it's for me.
I complain, but I love going into our room and finding space to sleep when my wife and kids are all in the bed. So many nights I've slept with my head on the night stand. Wouldn't have it another way.
yeah, I probably wouldn't mind if my entire dating/sex life was mostly FWB situations. (better than my current permanent inceldom, am i rite)
tbh listening to many Americans' thoughts about dating is weird. Dating is supposed to be fun, but some people act like anything other than gEtTiNg sErIoUs --> settling down is just a waste of their time. Because they not only want but need to build this magical ideal life and they need it right now.
On the other side of the debate, I'm going to die alone and my life has become a meaningless grey smear of total social isolation and despair.
I'm a much healthier and better person since starting a relationship with my now married partner.
I feel the complete opposite, I can’t imagine anything better. I wish I didn’t want a relationship, but it’s just how I am I guess. Hooking up and casual dating don’t interest me at all
That is why they invent poly. That way your partner can have another partner to spend time with and you get the house all to yourself for a while.
It is. We are a pack species like most apes. It isn't for everyone. Society doesn't prepare us with the emotional skills to handle it well. However if it suits you it presents a lot of options to create a very plesant situation
