It would help if you talked to me like I'm dumb.

I might lose a male friend because they could be getting romantically attached to me after I talked to them just like they're a girl.

I grew up around mostly girls and women to the point I don't fully get why I can't tell guy friends I love them. I kept telling one "I love ya dude!" To me, that sounds the same as "I love you as a friend!"

I thought spelling "you" as "ya" and adding the word "dude" firmly said "you're in the friend-zone." But no.

This is easily not the only example of where I fucked up, but I won't know unless it's pointed out to me and explained.


I'm furious that I live in a society :amerikkka: where I can't just tell guy friends that I love them.

  • Kuori [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    being emotionally open and honest with men often results in attachment since it's so rare for them to experience anything of the sort, rarer still for it to occur in a non-romantic context

    • cityofengles [any]
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      2 years ago

      I used to be this person. Can’t tell my homies I love them without getting roasted, can’t tell girls I love them lest I come off as creepy.

      A nice lady says something emotionally honest within 300 miles of me, hang on for dear life.