Yeah I originally had like the biggest eyeroll to this post but reading it it really does seem like there’s a bunch of users who don’t understand just basic stuff about how to be normal but for some reason thought they couldn't ask until this post? - IDK seems like this is ultimately on the good side of fine to me
Edit - my post made more sense before that danged owl edited their comment
Oh yeah, I don't want to discourage help for our cis male comrades at all. You guys rock and I love y'all. I just don't like the stereotype that "the left hates men"
I agree that it is a dumb conception, but we can be thankful that it's not really a stereotype but just something someone said online a few days ago that as far as I can see no one noticed except Hexbear
it's not that the left hates men or white people or westerners full stop, it's that we understandably always focus on other stuff and it leaves us to fall through the cracks not knowing what to do with ourselves.
men generally can't talk to women about this stuff, they don't talk to eachother about it or when they do it's always PUA-tier shit or uselessplatitudes, but in the trans specific spaces i'm in i see people talking about dating while trans with eachother all the fucking time and since a lot of us are trying to date eachother i assume the advice is better quality. People who get approached by cishet men have a different set of objectives and problems and there's a huge infrastructure of advice and safety tips and so on that's reasonable and not exclusively full of rightwing bullshit.
meanwhile I'm over here and people i might have mutual interest in aren't going to approach me and I have some idea of what they have to go through and deal with so I'm too afraid of piling on that by talking to a stranger or loose acquaintance... pre-covid... and the left *definitely * oesn't care about finding me specifically a partner(s).
i'm not a wizard but i am dying in the desert over here. It's not possible to recreate the social conditions I was in before and I don't want to meet anyone who would be looking in the usual places at this time of year in this part of the country... in fact i want to leave but i'm stuck because of poverty so even if i thought it was possible to get specific useful advice in good faith from such a generic question I'm not in a position to act on it.
Yeah I originally had like the biggest eyeroll to this post but reading it it really does seem like there’s a bunch of users who don’t understand just basic stuff about how to be normal but for some reason thought they couldn't ask until this post? - IDK seems like this is ultimately on the good side of fine to me
Edit - my post made more sense before that danged owl edited their comment
People literally get upset with you when you ask this kinda shit irl
It's genuinely useful information for neurodivergents and people who haven't socialized enough
A literal HOW TO BE NORMAL :brace-dark-cowboy: effortpost would probably be a good thing imo
I am a total fucking weirdo and would be a bad choice to make it though
Someone tried last week and we've been fighting about it ever since lol
Not a very good guide them
It's also not so much being normal as hiding your power level
the one who said to go party indoors during a pandemic?
Can you show me where they said go party indoors?
most of us are in the northern hemisphere
Can you show me where they said go party?
they said "go out" on new years, or are we talking about different posts?
Yeah I literally made a post the other day that was "What's the deal with relationships". I need a lot of normal things explained to me haha
I agree but sometimes it comes across as "Only cis dudes struggle with being neurodivergent or have social issues."
It is my job to talk to people. Cis dudes struggle with it at levels far higher than the rest of the population.
Oh yeah, I don't want to discourage help for our cis male comrades at all. You guys rock and I love y'all. I just don't like the stereotype that "the left hates men"
I agree that it is a dumb conception, but we can be thankful that it's not really a stereotype but just something someone said online a few days ago that as far as I can see no one noticed except Hexbear
sorry for the double reply
it's not that the left hates men or white people or westerners full stop, it's that we understandably always focus on other stuff and it leaves us to fall through the cracks not knowing what to do with ourselves.
men generally can't talk to women about this stuff, they don't talk to eachother about it or when they do it's always PUA-tier shit or uselessplatitudes, but in the trans specific spaces i'm in i see people talking about dating while trans with eachother all the fucking time and since a lot of us are trying to date eachother i assume the advice is better quality. People who get approached by cishet men have a different set of objectives and problems and there's a huge infrastructure of advice and safety tips and so on that's reasonable and not exclusively full of rightwing bullshit.
meanwhile I'm over here and people i might have mutual interest in aren't going to approach me and I have some idea of what they have to go through and deal with so I'm too afraid of piling on that by talking to a stranger or loose acquaintance... pre-covid... and the left *definitely * oesn't care about finding me specifically a partner(s).
in addition to what FourteenEyes said, it's bold of you to assume that we even know what to ask more specifically than "how get partner"
You can even ask that you know - it's complicated and maybe uncomfortable to hear but I'm sure you'd get a lot of good advice. I know I have some.
i'm not a wizard but i am dying in the desert over here. It's not possible to recreate the social conditions I was in before and I don't want to meet anyone who would be looking in the usual places at this time of year in this part of the country... in fact i want to leave but i'm stuck because of poverty so even if i thought it was possible to get specific useful advice in good faith from such a generic question I'm not in a position to act on it.