Listen up fuckers, cause none of this applies to anybody on this site specifically and I'm just bitching.

I don't have to accomodate neurotypicals who say horseshit like "I don't want to keep a tone tag reference sheet open to have a conversation though", that has officially stopped being a me problem. Similarly, if your response to that is "Communication is a two-way street, so a communication issue is often also a two-way thing", that doesn't sound like I have to accomodate YOUR misunderstanding of MY words, however you have decided to read them. If you decide even in spite of tone tags that I'm being an asshole, frankly get fucked and go decide someone else's emotional state for them. Hell, even if I didn't use tone tags, I shouldn't be required to fucking defend myself from your literal spurious accusations. I've had enough of your disingenuous assertions.

I'm pretty understanding about misreads, just ask me what I meant instead of fucking assuming the absolute worst in people all the time, and also do not go around expecting neurodiverse people to accomodate whatever YOU read into their words all the time. Your fucking problem. It's not their job to sort out your preconceptions and accept whatever emotions you decide for them, which was the point of what I was saying anyway. Ableist shit.

This type of thing has become pretty traumatic over the course of like ten of exactly this type of bullshit, so I don't have the will to cause problems and fight about it but I'm also not willing to constantly cede ground for free to neurotypical expectations.

change-da-world-1change-da-world-2

  • BountifulEggnog [she/her, they/them]
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    2 months ago

    I don't want to keep a tone tag reference sheet open to have a conversation though

    THERE'S LIKE 5 WTF ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT screm-aaaaaaaaa

    • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
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      2 months ago

      There are technically tons but yeah, nobody uses the weird ones much, just like /s, /srs, /lh, /j, /hj, /gen mostly?

      • citrussy_capybara [ze/hir]
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        2 months ago

        tone indicators are for accessibility and, as such, should be used with full words and not shortenings

        also /hj should never be used, it’s worse than useless [video of autistic person in-depth explaining why /half-joking makes statements even more difficult to understand, not more accessible]

        • ashinadash [she/her, comrade/them]
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          2 months ago

          I have heard that about /hj before, not surprising to me. Promise I won't do it. You think we should use the whole words, though? I only ever see short forms.

          • citrussy_capybara [ze/hir]
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            2 months ago

            Depends on situation, like any abbreviations/jargon. If in a group that already understands it can be useful shorthand, but for maximum understanding, which is the entire point of tone indicators, full words are more useful to a general audience.

        • Egon [they/them]
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          2 months ago

          Half-joking. It's a bad tag because it defeats the purpose if tone tags, which is to provide clarity. Saying you're half-joking does nothing. What are you joking about? What are you serious about? Am I meant to take this seriously? Am I meant to act on it? Are you saying something rude or something that you know is offensive and you feel the need to shield yourself? It's a terrible tag made by people who don't get it and they should all go to the gulag /hj

      • BountifulEggnog [she/her, they/them]
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        2 months ago

        I know there are a lot, but I only see a handful actually used. They also seem really easy to remember? Like I remember when I saw that /s meant sarcasm and like cat-confused I didn't forget that? They seem very accessible and easy to remember to me.

    • HexBroke [any, comrade/them]
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      2 months ago

      You don't even have to remember any tags, just make them up to convey meaning /honest /existentially-tired