The researchers also asked the participants to rate how often they noticed ten different problems in the online forums. Visitors to NoFap forums reported seeing content that was often trolling (88%), misogynistic (73.7%), bullying (49.1%), anti-LGBT (42.9%), or anti-Semitic (32.0%). Additionally, a significant number of participants reported being told to harm or kill themselves (23.5%), witnessing threats to hurt others (21.1%), and witnessing doxing of others (17.1%) on the forums.

  • NeelixBiederman [he/him]
    ·
    2 years ago

    Do the volcel police, and us by proxy, count as "anti-masturbation groups"?

    spoiler

    I ask in jest, I know their role is to keep uncomfortable hornyposting down

    • AlyxMS [he/him]
      ·
      2 years ago

      :volcel-judge: Volcel police says do not cum:volcel-kamala: not do not fap. That's the key difference.

    • UlyssesT
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      edit-2
      15 days ago

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    • Bay_of_Piggies [he/him, comrade/them]
      ·
      2 years ago

      I know you joke, but whenever masturbation comes in a serious way people are usually pretty positive about it from a health and wellness perspective.

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
      ·
      2 years ago

      No, see, because celibacy is about doing sex with other people. Masturbation and activities involving neural clones, alternate reality versions of yourself, and any hijinks resulting from time travel are generally :halal: with some exceptions.

    • BynarsAreOk [none/use name]
      hexagon
      ·
      2 years ago

      Yeah but as you can see from the comments here we already have this culture here even as a joke, imo we just have to make sure people don't take volcel it as unironically good and end up on the other side.

      • ssjmarx [he/him]
        ·
        2 years ago

        I've always taken the volcel stuff here to be more about not letting the forum attract creepers. On reddit any time there's a girl in a pic 80% of the comment section will just be :awooga: shit, which is alienating as fuck.

        • AcidSmiley [she/her]
          ·
          2 years ago

          I’ve always taken the volcel stuff here to be more about not letting the forum attract creepers.

          Ideally, it works as that, and by extension as a protection for our ace and sex-repulsed comrades. It's important to foster a site culture where :awooga: is not accepted. But i don't know if everybody is aware of that intention, i've had people LARPing as volcel police when i was simply discussing my sexuality in a decidedly non-horny manner (i was actually talking about how not horny i am, how i fit into the alloace spectrum and how i felt various kinds of non-sexual attraction to people), and i don't think i should be subjected to something like that in a militantly LGBT-inclusive space.

          Not to mention that for a lot of people, the volcel bit quickly verges into chastity play and like all forms of BDSM, that doesn't work spontaneously with complete strangers. You can't do kink without establishing consent and rules and boundaries in advance. I'm not saying that to kinkshame, i've had lots of fun with chastity play myself in the past, i'm just saying that it's not something i want to engage in with randos on a leftist shitposting forum. It's as transgressive as sexualizing it when i talk about my tits merely as a gender-affirming part of my transition process, something a lot of people struggle to understand as well.

          So yes, the volcel bit is a safegurad against the sexualizing horny culture that's all over the rest of the internet and it's a good thing we're making this effort, but there's both cases were people take it too far, cases where it achieves the opposite and cases were people suddenly forget about it.

          • huf [he/him]
            ·
            2 years ago

            i found out about the volcel police just by encountering the memes here and it was immediately obvious that it's there to prevent this place becoming yet another porn aggregator and all around misogynistic shithole.

            i love it.

            i havent seen any ... ahem... perversion of the meme so far.

            • AcidSmiley [she/her]
              ·
              2 years ago

              like i said, i'm speaking from personal experience on all of these points. That's rare, we're generally on a good track, but some people don't fully get what the volcel bit is about.

              • huf [he/him]
                ·
                2 years ago

                Quis custodiet ipsos custodes? :)

                • Frank [he/him, he/him]
                  ·
                  2 years ago

                  Please refrain from watching the watchmen themselves with a prurient interest. :volcel-police:

            • Frank [he/him, he/him]
              ·
              2 years ago

              It originally started as a multi-thread rift on mysogynistic hornyposting, tired memes about communist secret police, and the late/post gwot trend of adopting some Arabic phrases as a way to ironically demonstrate rejection of the islamaphobic majority. The big haram greentext was an important part of it back on reddit, and the actual volcel police jokes were reasonably explicit with things like "please keep your bodily fluids to yourself".

              It's meaning and purpose has changed here to largely being a mechanism for shutting down casual hornyposting to protect the site's culture of being welcoming to people who either aren't interested in or do not want to be around discussions of sex, but at least in my experience it remains playful and silly, with lots of variation and innovation and a long standing gag of trying to thwart or escape the volcel cops.

              Related, it's wild that the original volcel oath gag is like, what, seven years old now?

        • space_wizard [any]
          ·
          2 years ago

          On reddit any time there’s a girl in a pic 80% of the comment section will just be :awooga: shit

          This site is no different, it's just all blush emojis and submissive "jokes" instead.

          • Kuori [she/her]
            ·
            2 years ago

            ymmv i suppose but i find that infinitely preferable

            the tone is so different; it doesn't feel like it comes from a place of misogyny

            • space_wizard [any]
              ·
              2 years ago

              I find it worse because it's done under the pretense it's somehow woke if you have a slight kink. At least :awooga: guys aren't pretending it's anything else.

              • Kuori [she/her]
                ·
                2 years ago

                i can understand that i suppose. like i said it's very subjective, it just so happens that i find it less repulsive (maybe the focus on "what i'd like to do to her" vs "what i'd like her to do to me"? idk)

          • Frank [he/him, he/him]
            ·
            2 years ago

            Yeah. Hexbear can be horny but site culture limits it to either a few in jokes and emojis, or frank discussions of sexuality. And the volcel police meme means honryposting typically gets derailed after a few :hyperflush: or :soviet-bottom: emojis are posted.

            Like we literally have more than one emoji about bottoms. We don't talk about sex much but it's not completely verbotten.

        • BynarsAreOk [none/use name]
          hexagon
          ·
          edit-2
          2 years ago

          Do we need to go over the problems that arise from putting memes in front of discourse?

          How insulated a community has to be in order for someone to end up thinking "I don't really know if X is good or bad and I'm too afraid to ask."

          Of course we have many, maybe most people here with a strong consciousness and good rhetorical foundation, but I shouldn't have to mention the dozen of struggle sessions over the years over so much stuff.

          In hindsight one can always say "but I always thought X was [the correct take here]" but doing it in real time is not as straight forward as it seems.

          In the end we realy do need a "Beginners guide to Hexbear" somewhere just to be safe.

          • Frank [he/him, he/him]
            ·
            2 years ago

            Having a guide to site culture and the history of the more popular jokes and memes is rarely a bad idea. Reddit had a couple of subs dedicated to maintaining the history of reddit. Idk if they still exist.

      • Frank [he/him, he/him]
        ·
        2 years ago

        There sure was a lot of gay sex back in the day. Some monasteries/convents were basically gay lifestyle resorts.

        • FourteenEyes [he/him]
          ·
          2 years ago

          Me, a noble lord: :gigachad:

          My large adult failson and his very close monk friend who he shares a room with and goes to prayers with and sometimes disappears behind the stables with: :large-adult-son: :large-adult-son:

  • kristina [she/her]
    ·
    2 years ago

    hexbear makes people misogynistic, anti-LGBT, anti-semitic, depressed, anxious, and suicidal

    we must abolish the volcel police

    • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
      ·
      2 years ago

      Not true, it's voluntary.

      Need I remind you that you are a repeat offender? :volcel-judge:

    • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
      ·
      2 years ago

      Trolling ✅

      Misogyny ❌

      Bullying ❌*

      Homophobia ❌

      Anti-semitism ❌

      Encouraging suicide of members ❌

      Threatening violence ✅

      Doxing members ❌

      * not including public shaming

  • ssjmarx [he/him]
    ·
    2 years ago

    Everything the sex-positive people have been saying remains correct

      • FourteenEyes [he/him]
        ·
        edit-2
        2 years ago

        None of your concern, citizen. Stay chaste out there. :volcel-judge:

      • ssjmarx [he/him]
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        edit-2
        2 years ago

        In this case, something like: "masturbation is fine, almost everyone does it, it's also fine if you don't do it because everyone has a different libido, just don't try to force yourself or others into a specific box."

        • Frank [he/him, he/him]
          ·
          2 years ago

          Attempts to research what happens when men don't masturbate are essentially impossible because researchers are never able to find a significant number of men who don't masturbate.

  • Dryad [she/her]
    ·
    2 years ago

    I mean, of course? People who are depressed, anxious, or suicidal are more likely to get sucked into pseudoscientific cure-all cults than people who are healthy and without major problems in life. Telling someone "you'll stop being so depressed/anxious/suicidal if you just stop jacking off" isn't that compelling if they're not depressed/anxious/suicidal.

  • Shoegazer [he/him]
    ·
    2 years ago

    I think it’s funny how like 95% of anti fap members somehow conflated porn addiction with masturbating and then somehow conflated that with all sex and become distressed when a girl shows any sort of interest

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
      ·
      2 years ago

      I am convinced, based upon both cultural observations and the research I've read, that porn addiction isn't real or is very uncommon and most of these people are so traumatized by their Christian Fascist upbringing that they have a pathological terror of their own more or less normal sexuality and sexual function. They're so warped by purity culture and christianity that they've convinced themselves en masse that normal biological functions and behaviors are evidence of something seriously wrong and then come up with some impressively maladaptive behaviors to cope.

      Among other evidence is American's centuries long obsessive campaign to stop men from masturbating. If you know about the many, many bizarre psuedoscientific efforts to stop men from masturbating in the history of us christianity the whole nofap/porn addiction industrial complex looks like a natural outgrowth of that trend once it hit the internet's potential for generating insular cults and mass delusion.

    • bigboopballs [he/him]
      ·
      2 years ago

      yeah, this is the habit I have to break. The problem is that there's so much time and I'm too poor and mentally ill to fill it up with activities outside the house while I'm stranded in this stupid town without a car.

      • Frank [he/him, he/him]
        ·
        2 years ago

        Same. Most of the time I really just want to talk to people about things that interest me but being isolated, mentally ill, and mostly stuck at home makes that largely impossible. Social media sites give me at least some of the experience of having a community and people to talk to when that's not otherwise available.

  • artificialset [she/her, fae/faer]
    ·
    2 years ago

    Trying to stop a natural body function like it's your sacred duty leads to other problematic views? Wow, I can't believe that!

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
      ·
      2 years ago

      Imagine thinking god hates you bc you had a wet dream bc checks notes your reproductive system is functioning normally.

  • 2Password2Remember [he/him]
    ·
    2 years ago

    did they control for greater engagement with other online groups? bc being too online, regardless of what types of forums you're on, is gonna cause depression, anxiety and suicidal feelings

    Death to America