Burner account but I swear I'm a real person here. Hopefully I don't thoroughly dox myself but I'm in my thirties and have, for the first time, been forced to use the dating apps. I hate them. However, I (a cis guy) matched with a vegan, communist (based on profile) woman around my age and now I'm banging my head against a wall trying to think of like how to start a convo? I'm so old and stupid, irl I'm not really that worried about meeting people but this is messing with me.

Edit: to clarify, I am also a vegan communist

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    • SocialistWombat [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      I tried the cursed landscape of both OKcupid AND Tinder in its early days. Neither were good.

      Eventually I got set up on a blind date and that was it. Speak to your family and friends guys, for real. Online dating apps are trash.

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        • VernetheJules [they/them]
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          2 years ago

          Iirc the tinder, okc and one of the other big ones are all owned by the same company lol

      • BarnieusCalgar [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Speak to your family and friends guys, for real.

        I do that, they refuse to help me. :/

        • FourteenEyes [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          "It'll happen for you" "You have to love yourself first" "It will happen when you're not looking" "Be yourself :)"

          • BarnieusCalgar [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            TBF to them it's more "We also don't know anybody that's available/interested", so like. It's not quite so patronizing.

    • teddiursa [she/her]
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      Dating isn’t any more fucked up now than it was before. No one is forced to use dating apps

      • bigboopballs [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        No one is forced to use dating apps

        some say it's much harder to meet people to date offline now that so many people are just using the apps --> less people doing things IRL where they might meet eligible dates

        I can't say whether this is accurate or not since I'm basically a hermit who hasn't had a social life for my entire adulthood