I’ve read about how it’s typically difficult for adults with autism to remain employed, and I can completely see why. Never been officially diagnosed, but I’m pretty sure it’s a foregone conclusion in the way that I constantly over analyze every action taken by my co-workers and supervisors
So yeah there’s definitely some ND thought here, but I also can’t seem to get past how fake everything feels. And it feels like I have to play along with their little game where they all assume different personalities between the hours of 9-5 instead of being themselves. Because contrary to popular belief, individuals aren’t beneficial to capitalism, drones are
I hate my brain
So, yeah. Sounds like white collar problems. Get a non bullshit job and these won't be problems. We can't all be highly paid.
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Social skills alone do not.get you higher on the ladder. In fact they generally hurt you cause they make you care about people around you.
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Okay, you're talking malevolent social skills, I'm talking just like...general social skills. You can have those and not be evil and plenty of people I know have very very good social skills and are in working class gigs because they are i would argue better socially than a.ladder climbing office creep. I think we're taking a different view on 'social skills' I'm just like, talking about being easy to get along with and all that stuff.
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Socially, yeah, there's a totally different approach. Light side of the force and dark side of the force stuff. Learning good social skills that are like positive for others around you and American psycho shot are very different things. Any therapist can tell you that.
Yeah, I think the problem is that things that are positive for everyone around you aren't necessarily optimal for your individual success. The most useful skills include things like placating/bullshitting the bosses, and throwing your peers under the bus when it serves.
Modern management tactics like stack ranking produce the worst versions of this. In such situations, the most beneficial move may be to sabotage your peers. Helping everyone else would simply hurt your own chances.
That's fair. I've avoided jobs that I have to deal with thst crap. As a consequence, I'm poor.
Same. I'm currently trying to figure out how little money I can afford to make just so I can have a drama-free work life. Faking enthusiasm and making small talk with supervisors/managers can be so tiring, and I hate how important it is even when not overtly part of the job duties.
The current trend of open floor plan offices is a nightmare too. I feel like I have to be constantly on guard, lest I say something that gets me branded "not a team player".
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I just consider kindness and compassion and being able to express them well is social skills.
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I'm paraphrasing a therapist with a PhD and all that, yeah, disagree
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kindness is only a social skill in a society that raises you to be a nihilistic narcissist by default, where feelings of guilt are to be projected onto the victims of one's actions.
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Well that’s not what good social skills are. Autistic people are very kind and compassionate
Like it's either how yo get what you want or how to express what you want and they are very different books there.
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You don’t know what social skills means. It doesn’t mean caring about the people around you. It means having a great ability to conform and knowing exactly how to act around the people you’re with.
my sibling in christ, that describes most of the jobs people feasibly could get that will buy them bread and shelter. i'm looking at choosing between a job i can't socially navigate or not being able to buy a house to live in type shit.