older reddit post [CW: some ableism in the comments] but its hilarious how thoroughly OP was bullied. They also claimed to be a teacher who "works with mental health professionals" so they couldn't possibly be out-of-touch :hasan-ok-dude:

  • buh [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    Americans when encountering friendly people: :frothingfash:

    • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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      1 year ago

      There's very much a class element; If someone's being genuinely friendly with you then they must see you as roughly equal, and if you've got the right kind of brainworms having the staff acting as equals is unforgivable. There are a lot of people out there that think your income bracket is some kind of biological determinist trait written in your genes and acting too familiar with someone "above your station" is violence. Really deeply :brainworms: sicko shit, but people who think like that exist. I'm related to some of them. : p

      • WhatDoYouMeanPodcast [comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        I'm at a point in my life and development where my job requires that I tell people what to do - not so much as a supervisor but still giving people commands. It's made me so uncomfortable because I'm terrified of becoming like this. I remember how fucking annoying it is to have someone come through, critique they way you do things and change how you operate. I guess I was unhappy otherwise and it was just another thing. I was so apologetic for having to put ripples into the pool. People close to me have recently talked to me about how I need to act like the big boss comrade, stop saying um, stop undermining myself, etc. I hate it and I feel gross. But as people entrust me with bigger projects and have faith that I teach people some of the knowledge I've accumulated over years that people show up to obtain, it seems like a healthy step to take instead of just shrinking back from it.