Is it someone you see and immediately want to make out with/fuck? Because if I see someone who is aesthetically pleasing/interesting, I make the decision to try to get to know them as a person before I escalate things further. And I’m starting to think this is atypical because my track record isn’t great.
Is that just a long-winded way to describe an average crush? Does it vary from person to person?
I'm queer and polyamorous, so I view crushes as a threat to my well-being mostly. If I'm crushing on someone I theoretically have the space in my life to actually explore that crush. Except nobody is ever crushing on me back or if they are they're monogamous, so making any attempt to pursue or explore that crush has a serious potential to just ruin the existing relationship. So I push it down and hide it. Which sucks because my pool of possible crushes is "everyone" so I'm crushing all the time.
Why yes I'm super healthy and totally neurotypical how'd you know