It's really helpful to build up an irl queer network. Nowadays that will still mean you're mostly talking online when it comes to day to day conversation, but it makes a difference when you actually know the people you're chatting with, and to have people nearby to hang out with once in a while, help each other out when needed, over time also form some real friendships with people like you, maybe do some irl queer organizing as well. And even without that, just being in a room full of other trans people on a regular basis means a ton, for me it really normalized transness in ways that were extremely useful in overcoming some issues. Plus, all this lesbianing i'm doing works exclusively over such networks, i'm not going on some shitty app for that.

As good as this community is, you're just not getting the same amount of belonging and connection here. You can't replace building up a life full of queer and being part of a local community that gets stuff done.