Sometimes I think about interests like a fishing pole, don’t be shy about your interests, put them out there, but if other people clearly don’t care it’s not worth it to go into them. People like that are either good as acquaintances, maybe you can connect with them on something else, or maybe those just aren’t your people.
If someone does bite, then go into your interests, but it’s important to have a conversation with them and not lecture them. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been trying to talk with someone about some niche interest, and they start trying to teach me about it? As if I don’t have the same knowledge they have (sometimes more)? I go “yeah I know” but the monologue can’t be stopped. Assume the other person has the same knowledge you have, if they don’t they’ll ask questions or it’ll become clear in some other way. And don’t be embarrassed about things you don’t know either.
Sometimes I think about interests like a fishing pole, don’t be shy about your interests, put them out there, but if other people clearly don’t care it’s not worth it to go into them. People like that are either good as acquaintances, maybe you can connect with them on something else, or maybe those just aren’t your people.
If someone does bite, then go into your interests, but it’s important to have a conversation with them and not lecture them. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been trying to talk with someone about some niche interest, and they start trying to teach me about it? As if I don’t have the same knowledge they have (sometimes more)? I go “yeah I know” but the monologue can’t be stopped. Assume the other person has the same knowledge you have, if they don’t they’ll ask questions or it’ll become clear in some other way. And don’t be embarrassed about things you don’t know either.
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