I consistently have this issue where I legit cannot tell if someone is being snarky or mean it just bounces right off. Then i spend ages wondering if a certain phrase was meant to be an underhanded insult or not or what the subtext was supposed to be.
I think so.
I was literally just minutes ago thinking about something a friend said to me back in like 2016 and realizing, "I actually think they were being really racist." It was a kind of subtle slur. Should've defended myself but I didn't even catch it. Oh well.