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  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    4 months ago
    repression

    Is that normal for an allegedly cis person? To take a decade plus to "build a person" you're happy with, and then ruminate on it for another five years?

    Probably not, I'm gonna say.

    You wanna know what that quoted text reads like to me?

    I hate that this advances subtly the idea that trans people are just afraid of gender expectations. It just reads like transphobic ideas with a lot of extra steps. Like

    Rather than spending my time fantasizing about a a hypothetical different version of myself that was happy,

    Oh yeah fam, better not think outside of the gender they assigned you, gotta LOCK IN and fucking "GROW UP"! You were just INSECURE AND CONFUSED bucko!!! Am I reading an itemised list of transphobic dogwhistles? "You'll grow out of it"??? It's the 4ch "FAILED MAN" or whatever shit isn't it, which centers exclusively the idea that not living up to the gender some doctor arbitrarily assigned you is some innate failure somehow, it's fucking ridiculous. For bonus points, it's (trans)misogynistic on account that it assumes being a woman is EASIER somehow, enbyphobic because it excludes the idea of shirking gender expectations, and doesn't even make sense within its own framework because it doesn't acknowledge that trans people are often opting for more, different-er social gender expectations.

    I hate it and it displeases me, Idk.