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  • buh [she/her]M
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    4 months ago
    making a follow up to my own post since I still have some thoughts

    thinking about it more, the amount of time itself isn't what fucks me up about this person's way of thinking. depending on how you measure it, I'm at least 1 and at most 12 years into "figuring out" my gender shit. And I don't know how long until I'd be able to say I have it figured out, could be 2 more years, could be 10 more years. It is what it is; it's complicated.

    What's baffling to me is, how can you go through the psychological anguish of gender dysphoria for 10+ years and come to the conclusion that you were just a bit bashful about being masculine, that there isn't something deeper causing it? either they're deep in denial, or they and I have different ideas of what gender dysphoria is.

    • naom3 [she/her]
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      4 months ago
      repping

      I think it takes that long to make yourself dead inside so you no longer feel the dysphoria and can convince yourself that you don’t really need to transition. I might be projecting though

      • buh [she/her]M
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        4 months ago

        idk, I (unconsciously) did that for about 10 years as well and I felt like shit the whole time and the dysphoria came back stronger. though I will admit that aside from trying to move up in my career, I wasn't doing anything towards "building a person that I was happy with". I don't think there's enough repression you can do to make feelings about your true self go away.

        I'm tired of thinking about this, so ultimately I think I agree with Thallos' idea that this was a cis person who went down the path of questioning his gender for whatever reason, and eventually decided that he wasn't actually trans, which is fine, but doesn't excuse his shitty opinions that trans people aren't valid and gender affirming care should be discouraged. It sucks that in some countries (notably amerikkka) that's the viewpoint most will gravitate towards because it's the closest to "normal".