I told my friend I love her and wanted to kiss her again (we went on a date recently and we known each other for like 10 years)

I felt like the only responsible thing was to be honest and now I am losing my mind waiting to hear from her again.

  • naom3 [she/her]
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    4 hours ago

    I’m in a really similar situation: I have a really good friend who I’ve known for like 10 years and who I’ve had feelings for for a long time and recently he kissed me when he was really drunk and I think he might like me but I’m not sure and I don’t know what to do ohnoes I’m scared of telling him that I like him and I don’t know if he really likes me or if he was just drunk and he hasn’t mentioned it and I can’t tell if he even remembers it or if he’s just pretending it didn’t happen ohnoes I’ve kinda been freaking out about this continuously since then

  • aFairlyLargeCat [he/him]
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    8 hours ago

    Going to give you some genuine, certified, very old guy advice:

    You did the right thing, let the chips fall where they may. You told her how you feel, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

    fidel-salute

    • Nakoichi [they/them]
      hexagon
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      5 hours ago

      Yea I am a somewhat old guy (I'm 39 she's 30) so I know I just gotta wait and see I just wanted some morale support, thank you all you helped a lot

      • reddit [any,they/them]
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        5 hours ago

        I will not make a power dynamics joke and instead just wish you the best of luck

  • Nakoichi [they/them]
    hexagon
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    edit-2
    11 hours ago

    In my defense she did tell me it lights up her day whenever I text her and that she wanted to be part of my life "no matter what" so I don't think that was an unreasonable thing to do on my part, its just that romance has always ended badly for me and I really really love this girl and I need someone to tell me its gonna be fine.

    Please help I need advice.

    • Verenata [she/her]
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      5 hours ago

      Fingers crossed thats so brave!!

      Advice?

      Breathe, chill, roll a j, vibe 💅

      From the sounds of it you two are close and mean a lot to each other. You've said your peace and given her agency and choice. Cool beans.

      If she says no and she meant as a friend will you still stay friends?

      • Nakoichi [they/them]
        hexagon
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        5 hours ago

        she says no and she meant as a friend will you still stay friends?

        Definitely

        • Verenata [she/her]
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          edit-2
          4 hours ago

          Yey!!!!! Awwwh rooting so hard for you

          tony-cheer

          Edit: to be a couple, I'm rooting for that. Not you being friends. Just to be very clear.

    • FunkyStuff [he/him]
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      11 hours ago

      From the information in this post it seems like you're fine, I don't think you crossed any inappropriate boundaries and it seems she's receptive. You'll be ok.

      • Nakoichi [they/them]
        hexagon
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        10 hours ago

        Thank you. It has been a while and the only two serious relationships I ever had ended badly and both times were mostly my fault. I'm not afraid of rejection I'm afraid of getting into another romantic relationship.

      • Nakoichi [they/them]
        hexagon
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        edit-2
        11 hours ago

        I'm not afraid of rejection I'm afraid of her wanting to be in a relationship lol.

        Rejection I can shrug off, it's falling in love again that terrifies me.

        • TraschcanOfIdeology [they/them, comrade/them]
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          edit-2
          8 hours ago

          This is going to be corny af, but falling in love is like a roller-coaster: it's supposed to be scary but exciting and crazy and it all happens so fast.

          Sending you the best vibes so you can enjoy the ride

  • Thordros [he/him, comrade/them]
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    8 hours ago

    You got this. You're a good person, and the way you talk about your friend tells me you genuinely love her.

  • blindbunny@lemmy.ml
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    10 hours ago

    You've passed the threshold of my experiences. I've loved this person for over half my life and I'm still scared to tell her that. Congratulations, it sounds like your fine though. Keep us updated