• fox [comrade/them]
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    13 days ago

    BDSM isn't entirely about pain or violence. That's the sadism and masochism part, wherein someone derives pleasure from causing pain or receiving pain, typically not specifically for the pain but the psychological element of being in a position of power or submission to someone else. The physical sensation is frequently secondary, but can be a source of additional stimulus. If you've ever gotten runner's high or felt a rush after getting a tattoo, it's sort of like that. Your body supplies endorphins after pain or exertion, and if you're already in a state of heightened sexual stimulation the pain drives you even higher and you don't really feel it, especially if your mind is preoccupied in a submissive state. If you're the dominant partner then you're probably not getting off from hurting someone, you're getting off from asserting your will onto them and seeing them get off to it.

    Most BDSM inflictions of pain aren't shit like knife play or burning or strangling or anything that would even leave a mark. Depictions of BDSM in pornography are no more real than anything else in porn and are often taken to a greater extreme than anything real practitioners go for.

    Sex specifically with the intent of causing pain is not what BDSM is.

    • Verenata
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      13 days ago

      Most BDSM inflictions of pain aren't shit like knife play or burning or strangling or anything that would even leave a mark.

      Lmao I want to try knife play but my bf has a hard no on that catgirl-hiss

    • viva_la_juche [they/them, any]
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      13 days ago

      or felt a rush after getting a tattoo

      Idk if it’s weird but I always enjoy the first like hour of getting a tattoo but after awhile my tolerance drops and it starts to like genuinely hurt hurt

      • fox [comrade/them]
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        13 days ago

        I had a 3 hour session once where I wasn't really bothered for the first 2.5 hours, then it hurt real bad, and then I had to crash for half an hour at the studio to get the shakes out from the adrenaline / dopamine rush. Ate a granola bar and hit the road and took a nap when I got home.

    • blight [he/him]
      hexagon
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      13 days ago

      Thanks for the detailed answer. My question was indeed prompted by seeing yet another porn scene ruined by strangulation.

      • AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her]
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        13 days ago

        Having pressure applied to your blood vessels in your neck can induce a light headed feeling of euphoria, and is also a great experience of trust between the people in the act

        Or so I've been told

        • Verenata
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          13 days ago

          It is!! Like people thinking choking is stopping the wind and it's like no it's putting the right amount of pressure where you said to make you feel all wooooOooOoooo.

          • blight [he/him]
            hexagon
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            13 days ago

            stopping air or blood, the end result is depriving the brain of oxygen which seems uh, decidedly not good

            i can understand superficial skin damage, but the brain is way more fragile

            • Verenata
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              13 days ago

              It's not stopping anything and "depriving" is a bit of a dramatic way of putting it. Like it doesn't come anywhere close to what I think you might be thinking it does.