it turns out that i'll be spending xmas with family this year and i intend to a wear a mrs. claus costume that reflects the fears that conservatives have about trans people.

i'm doing this mostly because two of my nephews just had daughters that i want to have a relationship with and also because some dumbass part of me misses their conservative genz asses simply because i used to bottle feed them and change their diapers when they were babies themselves.

the only other gay in my family is just as disgusted as i am that they would vote for someone who would gleefully fuck up their daughters' lives (trump) and we both intend to stir shit up without saying a single word so he's going to dress up as santa claus because one of the mothers is a put-jesus-back-into-xmas types and i will go as mrs claus to help.

however, the other mother and father are both transphobic so i want to make my costume to look as offensively trans (to them) as possible; but still be subtle enough so that the smarter members of my family can get the joke, but have enough space for deniability so that they can tell the conservatives to stfu. (i'm also hoping that their older daughters will ask about something that their parents don't want them to know about).

i'm a generic gay, so i can only guess what transphobes say/do to trans people so i'm struggling to find ways to make my costume trans without making it look like i'm making fun of trans people or look like i'm trying to do drag.

please help me with ideas on how to turn cis-mrs-claus into trans-mrs-claus that's offensive to clueless conservatives ONLY and fun for everyone else.

  • Llituro [he/him, they/them]
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    7 days ago

    a mrs. claus costume that reflects the fears that conservatives have about trans people.

    simply take what you might do to gender correctly and then do so clumsily. nothing makes the phobes more uncomfortable than watching a performance of gender that they are wholly unable to articulate their actual issue with. that might only be fun if you are very comfortable with yourself and your current gender expression though. people in the know would need to recognize that you're failing to gender on purpose.

    • eldavi@lemmy.ml
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      7 days ago

      do you have any examples of how i could do this with the costume?

      everyone else is clueless straight so they're not likely to be in the know; what do you think i can do about that for the costume?

      • Llituro [he/him, they/them]
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        7 days ago

        not particularly, i'm not much of an expert on gendering. i've just observed that the phobes are specifically uncomfortable along that axis. i'm also concerned with your wellbeing and suggesting reproducing harmful stereotypes out of my own ignorance, so i'll let my trans comrades make more specific suggestions.